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April 25, 2006, 6:15 pm PDT
A little too simplistic...
Quote From: lh2000
If a child can't behave on when unsupervised then parents have to supervise that child all the time or provide that supervision. I don't understand how a 15 year old child is on the streets drunk. Where the heck is mom and dad? If you can supervise your 2 year old or provide your 2 year old with 7/24 supervision then why can't you do that for an untrustworthy 15 or 16 year old? It is not the age that determines what freedoms a child has it is the behavior the determines that.
Clearly these parents don't have clear limits and consequences for exceeding those limits nor are they monitoring there kids closely enough and following through or these girls would not be behaving in such a way. I guess these are the same girls who where running around in the mall with their friends unsupervised at 10 and 12. If you don’t want to be involved in your kids life’s then don’t be surprised when the life your kids lead is not what you want it to be. Giving these kids a reality check is a poor substitution for involved parents.
400 hours in a tanning bed???? Where the heck does a teen get 400 hours of free time let alone the money to use a tanning bed for 400 hour? Clearly this kid lacks direction and purpose for their life. I don’t know a single kid who between school, church, clubs, sports. Arts, work, and community activities has time to spend 400 hundred hours doing anything. There is so much for kids to be engaged in these days it is not hard to keep them out of trouble. Rather then saying stop using the tanning bed why not provide some other focus to this kid’s life. This would also work for these other girls who seem to lack direction.
I'm afraid that this view is far too simplistic. A two year old is not the same as a sixteen year old. At two, they look up to you and depend on you for everything. At sixteen they think they don't need you anymore and to a certain extent they're right. They at least look like an adult -- meaning no one's going to detain them if they see them wandering the streets.
What are you going to do, keep them under house arrest? The first priority of a prisoner is to escape -- and that's exactly what your teen will do if you lock him or her up. If not now, then when they have the legal right to do whatever they want and then, far from having prepared them for life, you are going to cause them to run as far and as fast as they can.
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