Quote From: noraannI have a moocher that I divorced years ago. But not before my son picked up the bad habit. My new husband and I have tried everything to help my son. But he just doesn't move to get motivated. With the job market the way it is here, it makes it even worse! I am finding out now that while I was working to provide for my children, my Ex was abusing my three children. And I just recently found out how my son got burned as a child. Not at all how my Ex said it happened! I am very upset with all of this. Part of me says KICK HIM OUT! But a part of me feels it's the wrong thing to do because of his inability to function outside with others. He lacks social grace, self esteem, and confidence. My husband even wrote in to the show but Andrew wasn't picked to be on. Now I'm back to square one. A part of me wants to run and not put this on my husband. The other part is going in circles. It's easy for some to judge and say toss um out! Until you walk in our shoes, they will never know what it is like. Each and every one of us has our cross to bear and each situation is different. Maybe what I have is a co-dependent moocher? I don't know...any input out here would be greatly appreciated.
My first husband was a moocher, too. It took me a long time after our divorce to pay off the bills. I was apparently liable because we were married at the time the expenses happened. Blech!! I hadn't thought about our son being influenced by him, but maybe he was. My ex blames me for all of our child's problems (and they are a lot; he is in prison for car theft and drug possession). I have blamed myself for years for that, but I really don't know what I could have done besides taking him to all of the doctors, counselors, and psychologists I took him to. Anyway, sorry for rambling here.
You have my sympathy and I hope you can work things out. I do not know what to say except maybe talk to your son about getting a job. How old is he? Old enough that he should be on his own?
