Quote From: kqk1982 The first couple Carl and Michelle...Carl her husband was attracted to Michelle for her legs! He didnt say for her health....Dr. Phil is right you love a person for who they are. There could always be an obsessed person that even though you feel your in good shape is still critical of not being up to their idea of standards whether its legs, arms, buttocks, etc.....the people holding their spouse to their own personal standards should focus ONLY on themselves and quit trying to tell their spouse how to be like them. Love is not about being in the best shape you can be in....its about another human being and just because your married does not give you the right to demean your partner even if YOU think they could be healthier in which in this case the guy wasnt focused on health. When one partner starts making demands even in the name of health...THAT IS AN UNHEALTHY thing to force. You can as a partner incourage but NOT demand.
READING YOUR REPLY CONCERNING CARL AND MICHELLE. GIRL, YOU HAVE A DEFINITE PROBLEM!!! WORRIED ABOUT LOOKING GOOD SO THAT YOUR HUSBAND IS "NOT EMBARRASSED" BY YOUR APPEARANCE. AGAIN, YOU MAY "LOVE THE WAY HE/SHE LOOKS LIKE WHEN YOU FIRST MEET" OR "WHEN YOU GET MARRIED" BUT GET REAL, LIFE DOES NOT ALWAYS ALLOW YOU THE TIME OR ENERGY TO "ALWAYS LOOK GOOD!" ESPECIALLY WHEN LIFE THROWS MEDICAL PROBLEMS OR OTHER "PROBLEMS" INTO YOUR LIFE. YOU LOOSE WHAT SELF-ESTEEM YOU HAD AND THEN TO MAKE MATTERS WORSE, YOUR "PARTNER" STARTS COMPLAINING ABOUT HOW YOU HAVE CHANGED, WEIGHT GAIN THE WORSE!!!!!!!!!
SUPPORT, ENCOURAGEMENT, KIND WORDS, THESE ARE THE THINGS THAT HELP & MEAN THE MOST!!!!!!! NOT DEMEANING YOUR PARTNER
