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Replies to '07/06 Baby Wars'
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April 29, 2006, 9:11 am PDT
 Quote From: ruthieg Yes, men should have the same rights as women regarding parenthood. However, don't you think that women using baby as a meal ticket is a little stereotypical? I have a friend who had always thought she couldn't have a baby. When her doctor told her she was pregnant, she was already five months along. All this at 40 years of age. She spent the last half of her pregnancy in total shock. The father is a deadbeat dad, and wants nothing to do with his son. That's just fine with the boy. He's already said to his school friends that he doesn't have a dad. This is coming from a five year old. His mother is doing a fantastic job of raising him on her own, with no support, financial or otherwise, from the father(or "sperm donor" as I like to call him). As long as the child has a positive male role model in his life, then where is the problem?
By the same token, I also know of some women who have gone down the meal ticket road. I feel the most for the kids. Imagine growing up knowing your mum gave birth to you just for the money they can get from any available source.
Matt needs to think about where this will lead and what sort of individual this whole thing paints him as. His girlfriend may have truly believed that she couldn't get pregnant. Him thinking that she lied to him seems to me to be a bit of a copout, and he'll say anything to get out of his responsibility. This woman knew the man did not want a child and she believed she was unable to get pregnant and took the same risks he did. Knowing that the father was not interested in becoming a father, she decided to have the child anyway. In this case, he should not have to pay support. A man does not have the same choices, they cannot elect to have an abortion, give the child up for adoption, or choose to have the child and raise it himself etc...I agree with the man this time. My brother was 18 when his girlfriend got pregnant. He had a full time job. He was happy, he wanted the child- she did not. He begged her to have the child and he would raise it on his own. She elected to have an abortion and there wasn't a damn thing he could do about it. How fair or right was that? Whose best interest was served here? A man should have a right to be a father and women should understand that. I, too, am a single mother and raised 2 children (same father) for 8 years on my own, have fought in the support courts for 15 years, it does irreparable harm to the kids most of all. |
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