Quote From: rtroubleWe all can be abusive in a lot of ways, but true, real love is to forgive and choose to work on it or move on. I've been in the position several times of abuse, but it always comes to a point where you tolerate what's past and work on what is, or you leave it alone and go. Nobody except the two involved can decide what to do. But if I had been shot in the face or brutally massacred, I agree that is inhumane and there is way too much evil to reckon with on a daily basis. Women tell themselves, "If I could just love him enough, or do this or do that then..." It's up to the man to help himself and for us women to be aware of what is acceptable and what isn't in life. Some people can change, however, when it gets to a point of him "blacking out" or not being able to stop himself, it will most likely happen again when he is triggered to violence. Men are far from perfect and women are too. But it's about what is right in the end, and it just isn't right for a man to be allowed to be with a woman he shot in the face. He lost that right when he did wrong. Recently in the local news in my area, a man beat his girlfriend and threw a microwave oven at her and killed her because she refused to make him a hoagie and told him to do it himself. Afterwards, he pathetically attempted to get help from a few people who weren't home, then retired to the basement to drink a beer. I beg the lady who was shot- don't let this mentally unstable man take your life, he don't deserve it and you don't deserve to die, you have so much more to do in this world if you refocus your priorities. God bless you and Good luck.
Men who beat and verbally abuse women ARE COWARDS with serious issues obviously. Women who put up with this, have no self esteem at all which is really sad. If you don't love and respect yourself nobody else will.
Best thing to do is TO LEAVE the first time it happens. But not before you get their lame asses in jail.
