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May 2, 2006, 7:47 pm PDT
05/05 When Sexual Styles Don't Match
Quote From: abbywillMy husband and I have been together for over 20 years. When he was at his sexual peak at 21 - I was there for him - having sex whenever, where ever he felt like it. Now we are in our 40's. I am at my peak - and he is not. I have experienced his rejection more then I would like to admit. He claims to be "Too tired" - "bad timing" - "worried about our children hearing us" - We live like we are brother and sister. No screaming or fighting, but hardly any sex. I always have to initiate it and then I am sadly rejected. We have spoken about it - he thinks something is wrong with me - I went to the doctor and was told I'm normal. I even asked him if he had a girlfriend or if he was gay. To both questions the response was "no". Any other women having this problem? I am not over weight - although he is. Yet I still desire him. Any suggestions? I am at the end of my rope. Well if he is over weight does this mean he doesn't work out and eat right?
That is the hugest cause of loss of sex drive. Any Dr or therapist will tell you this is true. Think about it. Men and women both need blood flow to their genitals to become aroused. If he isn't healthy that will inhibit that blood flow greatly.
He probably won't listen to you and he probably will deny that this is true and he probably will resist trying to lose weight or at least to exercise a few times a week. Ask him to at least see a Dr about it. I am willing to bet that if he got off his hiney and exercise a few times a week and improved his diet...nothing DRASTIC, just tweeked it a bit his sex drive would improve greatly.
This is true for women too. Women think that because they aren't men, that they don't have erections (they actually do) that their health doesn't matter for their sex drive, but it does.
Being healthy effects your whole body and all your organs, including your brain and your sex organs.
Seriously...get him to a Dr so he can hear a Dr say it, because likelyhood is if you say it he'll just ignore it or pass it over.
Many people how have a diminished sex drive don't care about it. They don't realize they miss it.
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