Replies to 'Stay At Home Moms'

Being home with my children has been a blessing and a very rewarding experience, I agree that I would never have it any other way. They just grow up too fast and I know I will never get these days back. I believe the most imporant thing we can give our children is our time and love and respect. As I believe that all of us as parents must decide what is best for our families, I have decided that to stick them in a day care center all day for others to raise is just plain wrong and selfish on my part. Of course there would be others to disagree with that and that is their choice, for as I have shared with others, It took me along time to bare my children as I was 37 when I had my first therefore I have chosen to be the one here to care for and to be there for my children. I too have gotten some negative feed back about not working and my children are not even in school yet! We are definetly living in a society where self comes first and the "it takes a village to raise our kids" syndrome is the attitude. Now I don't have a problem with others being involved with my children and I don't have a problem with giving my children their personal space and letting them play with friends, but I do have a problem with the idea that we must work a "paying" job to be contribiters to our households and to society which I know people who think that if you do not bring home a paycheck, that it means you do not contribute and that is wrong and way off base, I can give many examples of how I personally contribute to my family as well as to society. I think it is what is in our hearts to do as a mother. I have always felt the desire to be a stay at home mom and this was discussed before hubby and I even married and I thank God for a husabnd who agrees with my thinking and supports me as the mother of his children. I think once we find our passions (what means the most to us and what it is that we like to do), then we will be motivated to live life as we feel called to do and will get more enjoyment from life. for me, my passion is my family and becasue I like taking care of people and teaching, it has been a wondeerful blessing to be home. I suppose I like to boast a little bit (in a good way) that I am really proud of the fact that it is me that has been able to spend the time and energy with my kids and it is me that has taught them most of the things that they know, they are active and smart little girls and personally, I feel that my husband and I have done just as a good of a job if not better then what some one else could have done for my girls. my first priority is my family and the fact that I can be involved in other mothers lives has been very rewarding. I have found that being home with my children, I have experienced so much more energy, the desire to grow more as a person, and more passionate about parenthood as a whole. Parenting definetly is not the easiest job but I believe it is the most rewarding and fullfilling, at least for me it is. And as far as schooling goes, I think homeschooling, though it is hard work and one gigantic committment and responsibility, would be one of the greatest rewards for both children and parents as we can learn together but it is definetly not for every one as we are all of different personalities as well as our children, I think some kids learn better in a group setting then they do on one on one but there are those who would do better in a smaller setting and one on one works better for some kids, the imporant thing here is for us as parents to put the needs of our children first and seek out the best of the best especially when it comes to their education. We are still a little undecided in this area, but we will definetly put our childrens needs first and as my oldest enters preschool this fall and kindergarten next fall, we then will have more of a feel of what we should do for her. either way, she will get whatever it is that she needs (and my younger daughter as well)to grow, mature and to become the person that she is meant to be because they will be offered the very best that we have to give and I believe that is what we need to do as parents, our children deserve the best., and for me being home with them is just the beginning......................