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August 24, 2005, 11:13 pm PDT
Your Parenting Style
Quote From: meherenowMy 5 year old is driving me crazy, making our house miserable. I have tried 1-2-3 magic and it does not work for him at all. He wants what he wants and he wants it now. He does not give up although I never give in. If I tell him not to do something that is one, he will do something else wrong just to see what happens. When he gets to three he is so worked up he will not calm down for anything. He starts hitting, crying, kicking. I literally have to restrain him. If I tell him no to something he wants, I explain why the answer is no and what he can do for future reference to avoid having things taking away from him. It does not matter to him. He will chant over and over I want ____!!!! whatever it is. I take away tv on a daily basis, favorite toys all the time. No consequence matters to him. Its like he cant control his own impulses. Any suggestions, I'm starting to get shortness of breath and chest pains whenever he starts to get worked up because I cannot control it. Thanks for reading. it is a very rare thing for me to count to 3 with my children. My husband does it all the time and it seems to work well but I usually just tell my girls once and if they don't listen I act, I do not count. I will also at times give a choice, "you can either listen to my words and choose another activity or you can go to your room and sit on your bed", In your case, you could say something like, You can't have (whatever) becasue........ but you can have (whatever) because.......... Don't give your son the time to get worked up, say it once and if he disobeys you then follow through with the consequence. I know this can be hard at times, but ignoring does wonders with my children, they know that I am not going to give into them and they know that I will follow through, they can cry and beg all they want, I am not giving in. When he is throwing a fit, or what ever, busy your self with something, I usually come down to the basement and throw a load of laundry in. Consistency and following through is very imporant and eventually he will learn that No means no and he will learn other rules as well, but you as the parent need to stick to your guns........
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