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July 25, 2005, 5:59 pm PDT
 Quote From: tray00 In The month of May my 8yr old boy was being chased by a boy 2 yrs older at lunch and after schools, he would catch my son and and push him and hit him. I found out and called the school. The school told me that I should stay out of it, and let the school deal with it. The school said "this is a diferent family from yours" and when the parents get involved it just gets messy. I said "I want this family to know this is against the law, and it needs to stop" So for a week, they kept this boy back for 10 minutes each day so that it gave my son a chance to get home. I didn't know it was for a week, I thought it would be longer. As soon as the week was up, it started again, he knocked my son to the ground and left him thier crying. I called the police. The police came to the school and talked to us, and also went to the other kids mother. That is all I know of this....the school didn't call me back and the police said the family was told to get some councelling. I didn't press charges, which I have every right too, but I hope the police would scare them enough to dicuss ways to get thier son to stop this....the mom could pick her son up from school and keep a better eye on him. Summer is here, so we'll see what happens in Sept. I was so mad at the school for not taking this seriously. I have to also say that my son is not a small boy. It is not just the little guys who get picked on. This other boy isn't much taller or bigger then my son, (maybe by an inch) I would of never thought my son would be bullied. Hi there i read your post and i know what its like to be a parent of a child who is being bullied.Shame on your son's school for not taking this seriously!!they obviously don't take bullying seriously.You should sik Dr.Phil on them he probably would get more results.I posted my story on the bullying board but its archived i believe .You can still read it though i think it was post no#25 around there anyhow.I don't stand for bullying either ,My daughter has that problem since elementary and now is starting high school .I just found out this year that she was been harassed in the jr high school and i knew about the elementary school ,ooooooh i was all over them big time.I always taught my kids to respect another human being and not to bully .So why should we allow it to happen to our kids right?Well elementary they didn't do much and it was all name calling and my daughter was the opposite of your son and shy at that so they really tend to draw to someone who is shy or quiet because of the not fighting back part.Until one day in elementary my daughter pushed one of the bullies a young boy no less a little bigger than her and he cried and of course who got detention mind did .but not for long when i went to the school.I do agree however it can hurt more than help at times so this time when she was going through all she did she finally told me she was being bullied .So i knew our jr high had a no tolerance of bullies and i jumped at that chance.So what they do here is if a bullies name is been brought forward for bullying their name goes on a list and if its brought forward again they are suspended from school and if it kept up charges would be brought forward so it does settle this bunch down .But its brutal on the childs self-esteem and my daughter is going to a support group for grief of her grandmother and they also work with their self-esteem .But how dare they bully to that point and if your poor sweet boy is bullied alot well i sure would jump on and get maybe someone to work with him or even a mentor too .I have a post all what my daughter went through as far as bullying and the grief but if you could read my post in the archives message boards just click on and it should show the bullying board and like i said it should be around the 25 or so.The kids at the jr high also didn't know who reported them either it was done very discreetly not to draw attn ,because they bully so many by now they can't figure it out who told so they have to watch their step.And the guidance councilor we had was excellent to .So she is off to high school this fall .take care and if you read my post over on  the other board let me know i'll check back time to time .take care .cathy boy this horse is hard on the eyes better change it .later |
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September 26, 2006, 3:39 pm PDT
Quote From: tray00 In The month of May my 8yr old boy was being chased by a boy 2 yrs older at lunch and after schools, he would catch my son and and push him and hit him. I found out and called the school. The school told me that I should stay out of it, and let the school deal with it. The school said "this is a diferent family from yours" and when the parents get involved it just gets messy. I said "I want this family to know this is against the law, and it needs to stop" So for a week, they kept this boy back for 10 minutes each day so that it gave my son a chance to get home. I didn't know it was for a week, I thought it would be longer. As soon as the week was up, it started again, he knocked my son to the ground and left him thier crying. I called the police. The police came to the school and talked to us, and also went to the other kids mother. That is all I know of this....the school didn't call me back and the police said the family was told to get some councelling. I didn't press charges, which I have every right too, but I hope the police would scare them enough to dicuss ways to get thier son to stop this....the mom could pick her son up from school and keep a better eye on him. Summer is here, so we'll see what happens in Sept. I was so mad at the school for not taking this seriously. I have to also say that my son is not a small boy. It is not just the little guys who get picked on. This other boy isn't much taller or bigger then my son, (maybe by an inch) I would of never thought my son would be bullied. okay, i actually just posted a letter to Dr. Phil.... my son is the youngest,smallest and meanest at his pre-school. he has only been there since August and has had 4 misbehavior reports sent home, from biting hitting, and smacking the teachers... he is 3. his father and I do not show aggression or play rough with him, we monitor his television viewing, so i don't know where he gets all this meanness from. Just today when we picked him up from preschool, the teacher said he did not want to listen to her or the other teachers so he hauled off and hit her in the stomach.... he is a good kid ( most of the time) but you are right size doe not matter... we thought we would have to teach him to stick up for himself because he is a smaller kid. and he wares glasses, ya know how kids can be cruel. he has had a few times when a child bit him too. but i am just curios ,,,,,, where does he get this from????is this a normal 3 yr old?? we constantly tell him not to hit, and hitting is not nice. he repeats it , but doesn't follow through, and i know he is only 3, i sure as heck don't want him acting like this when he is older..he is an only child , but we do not let him get his way all the time. we spank on a rare occasion, but hitting back when you get hit teaches what?? nothing he even hits me sometimes and i look at him an say we don't hit i do put him in time out for 3 minutes, i usually have to hold him as he kicks and screams the whole time... i do wish you the best with your son,,, i will say a prayer for you.... its been awhile sine Ive been on here, maybe by time summer is over, he will be taller than the other guy. if not hopefully it gets better.i not one for eye for an eye, ya know you hit me and i hot back, there is already enought violence in this world , we all should set a better example for our kids generation, because i will be a senior citizen in 30 yrs and it scares the hell out of me to think some of these kids are gonna be in charge of the government. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!!! |
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November 12, 2007, 6:36 pm PST
Quote From: tray00 In The month of May my 8yr old boy was being chased by a boy 2 yrs older at lunch and after schools, he would catch my son and and push him and hit him. I found out and called the school. The school told me that I should stay out of it, and let the school deal with it. The school said "this is a diferent family from yours" and when the parents get involved it just gets messy. I said "I want this family to know this is against the law, and it needs to stop" So for a week, they kept this boy back for 10 minutes each day so that it gave my son a chance to get home. I didn't know it was for a week, I thought it would be longer. As soon as the week was up, it started again, he knocked my son to the ground and left him thier crying. I called the police. The police came to the school and talked to us, and also went to the other kids mother. That is all I know of this....the school didn't call me back and the police said the family was told to get some councelling. I didn't press charges, which I have every right too, but I hope the police would scare them enough to dicuss ways to get thier son to stop this....the mom could pick her son up from school and keep a better eye on him. Summer is here, so we'll see what happens in Sept. I was so mad at the school for not taking this seriously. I have to also say that my son is not a small boy. It is not just the little guys who get picked on. This other boy isn't much taller or bigger then my son, (maybe by an inch) I would of never thought my son would be bullied. hi my oldest daugher has had the samr problem, but to make matters worst "sky" lived right in the duplex next to us. It was awful i finally went to the police after the third time of being beaten up (punched slapped and kicked) but i told her mother and she jumped in her vehicle went to the police (before me) and said i was harassing them. Can you beliveve that? After she borrowed my phone for hours, borrowed smokes, put up with their Partying, borrowed money and borrowed food. But oh well. That night i went to an aspiring woman Barbara Coloroso. She was and is absolutly wonderful i bought her book "the bullied, and the bystander which is extremly helpful. No matter what it is not your sons fault it is the boys |
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