Quote From: krglennMy mother and i have always had a great relationship but last year she announced at the age of 47 she is gay. Now i am not mad at her for that but she has abbaondoned her kids (my younger brother and sister) with her ex-husband who she cheated on with her new girlfriend. And I, being the older sister, feel like she needs to grow up and realiz that her kids are more important that her girlfriend. And as a result i ahve not talked or seen her since mothers day of this year. any advise?
Well let me first ask you a question, how much are you willing to listen, if the person is jumping your case? What your mother has done is wrong, but I would suggest you attempt to talk to your mother in a loving way, asking her what her views are on what she has done, and attempt to find "her" take on the situation, and why she feels she doesn't need the contact with her children?
You have only one mother and father in this world, and unless they are abusive in some way, you should attempt to keep contact with them. I would think that your mother loves you and your siblings. It sounds like you have no idea why she has done what she has done, and the reason for that is because you have not shown the concern to find out why. For all you know, she may have felt she could not handle the strain, and removed herself from the situation to prevent her from doing harm to her other children. Unless you can get over this enough to sit down calmly and discuss the matter, who could possibly give advice on what you should do?
Find out the facts, and then think about it, and then rationally decide what you should do next. I would think that ostracizing your mother would not be the answer. I hope this helps. Good luck, and keep us posted.
