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May 12, 2006, 2:46 pm PDT
Get to the bottom of things
Quote From: tyrivetHi!
I am 30 yrs old and my live in boyfriend of 2 1/2 yrs is 26. I never bring up marriage because I was married once before. In the beginning of our relationship, he would always say I was the one etc... He said at one time that he wanted to get married eventually, but not anytime soon. He knows that I do want to be married. I really don' t know why. It has nothing to do with the security. I just want to be someone's wife ( of course not just anyone). I am in no rush, but I do want to be married. It recently came up as a joke. I deceided to talk to him about it being that it came up. He informed me that he loves me very much and couldn't see himself with anyone else, but he doesn't see himself ever wanting to get married. His parents are still together and was brought up in a decent family. I have tried to talk to him about it and he just gets mad. I just can't understand how he could say he pretty close to never wants to get married. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Maybe he's scared. Have a serious talk with him and tell him that this is what you want in life and if he doesn't, then you two shouldn't be together anymore, because it's not fair to you. Make this the last time you talk about it and be straightforward and honest. If he can't have a mature discussion and try to find out why he doesn't want to get married, then you need to decide if you should move on or not. You deserve to have what you want in life. If he gets mad, it's because he doesn't want to talk about it out of fear of something.
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