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My sister who is younger than me, used to have imaginary friends also. She was about 3-4 years old at the time. Their names were "Frankie" and "Johnny". One was red and the other was green. She would constantly talk to these "invisible" people and play with them. She would aske them questions and according to her, they would answere her back. It was phase she went through. My toddlers ages 4 and 5 do the same thing at times. It is only their own imagination being creative. One thing that helped to get my sister from having imanginary friends was that my mom took her to play with other "real" kids. Eventually her invisible friends went somewhere else. I think it is just a phase they go through and they are just being creative in their imagination. My sister was the baby of the family and she had no one to play with so she made up her own friends. Hope this helps some.

My 5 year old (Sabrina) used to have imaginary friends then became her own imaginery friend - Cher.  Cher would come over and she would leave.  She started doing this around 3 1/2.  It started getting a little frustrating and I became concerned as well.  I started talking to her about Sabrina and all the great things does and that I missed her while she was gone (while Cher visited)and that I loved her, then Sabrina would come back.  Cher's visit came for shorter intervals.  Now at 5, Cher is often talked about but rarely visits!!  Good luck.

I think your daughter is fine. This should be a phase. My daughter had 1 fulltime friend, Ralph on Sound of Music, that went with us EVERYWHERE, and part time, Leezal from the same movie, she was there some of the time. She is now 9yrs old and that is a great memory I have of hers. I just enjoyed them as much as she did.  My 4yr old doesn't have one. Every child is different. Enjoy her friend and treat them like they were yours, too. Of coarse there are times when she has to be Valerie and Timmy is not there. But for the most part, enjoy Timmy like she does.

I am wondering if you would care to share what you have been experiencing with myself. I am currently researching for a book I am writing. I have strong beliefs from the research I have currently undertaken that there may be a communication with spirits. Deseased family members acting as guardian angels in some cases. 

  

Please send your stories and comments to: davidmelrose@joe15.fsnet.co.uk 

  

Thank you