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May 8, 2006, 2:56 pm PDT
 Quote From: kschmittz Mommiebot-
WOW! You have made some interesing conclusions and I'm a little perplexed. So, again, here I am to set the record straight. First, had I known I was speaking with someone who I thought had school age kids I might have made a different list. Nonetheless, I hope it helped who it was intended for. Second, might I suggest that you and other SAHM's really learn to confront all these nasty comments with the person/people who actually make them. I could make several of my own "funny" comments, however, I don't see that kind of behavior as a benefit to my kids as their role model. Next, the chicken/horse comment bewilders me as my area has A LOT of ranch/horse properties which is what we're known for so where you draw that conclusion is beyond me. It sounds like you have a nice life for your family in an area that you are comfortable in. I have the same. Our lives are very different but work for both of us. Myself, if I have to drive more than one mile and can't find a grocery store or gas station I start to panic-lol. Also, as I have said to Purple, for me to uproot all my kids have ever known so I can have the luxury of SH doesn't really seem beneficial to anyone but me. Last, your manicure/pedicure comments are FAR FROM FUNNY! It just shows your lack of tolerance and vision for anyone/anything outside your own backyard. FYI- I do get a pedicure every two YEARS when we go for family vacation and I do wax my brows for a whopping total of $20/month- yeah, that's why I work 40 hours a week for that huge extra! All in all, I just get tired of hearing about the poor SAHM who has nothing and the evil WM who pawns her kids off to daycare to get massages and manicures. It's tedious. I guess I have realized that most who make those comments are really just that - very one-sided. To absorbed in their own world to truly experience life and all it has to offer. I think you got a little defensive, she made it clear that she knows working moms and sahm's who are both those vacant "pedi/mani" types...I think that is a sad part of our sex, not a product of staying home or not. Women like that make us all look stupid...LOL SAHM's hear the ignorant comments about how we are kept and how we must not have much to offer the world. WM's hear that they abandon their kids and whatnot. It's hard to be a WOMAN in this world. BTW, your list didn't help me, but you didn't know that my daughter is two (turned two a week ago)...it's hard, but it's what I signed up for. I knew the first few years would be lonely and hard. Like I said, I signed up for it. I also get the benifits too. So, each side has their ups and downs. I personally never plan to make any comments back to people who make these remarks other then gently correcting them. That woman who made that remark to me, I still don't know if I will ever say much back to her. What could I say? LOL...anything I say would just sound lame and defensive and she's have her own answer back. So let her think what she thinks. And those who do think I'm a waste of a mind or whatever people think about me, they'll see (or they won't, whatever) I plan to go to school and I plan to start working on a book I've been writing for the last few years again. I normally don't care about these comments, some do push my buttons though. And I've learned a lesson. |
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May 9, 2006, 5:15 am PDT
Quote From: kschmittz Mommiebot-
WOW! You have made some interesing conclusions and I'm a little perplexed. So, again, here I am to set the record straight. First, had I known I was speaking with someone who I thought had school age kids I might have made a different list. Nonetheless, I hope it helped who it was intended for. Second, might I suggest that you and other SAHM's really learn to confront all these nasty comments with the person/people who actually make them. I could make several of my own "funny" comments, however, I don't see that kind of behavior as a benefit to my kids as their role model. Next, the chicken/horse comment bewilders me as my area has A LOT of ranch/horse properties which is what we're known for so where you draw that conclusion is beyond me. It sounds like you have a nice life for your family in an area that you are comfortable in. I have the same. Our lives are very different but work for both of us. Myself, if I have to drive more than one mile and can't find a grocery store or gas station I start to panic-lol. Also, as I have said to Purple, for me to uproot all my kids have ever known so I can have the luxury of SH doesn't really seem beneficial to anyone but me. Last, your manicure/pedicure comments are FAR FROM FUNNY! It just shows your lack of tolerance and vision for anyone/anything outside your own backyard. FYI- I do get a pedicure every two YEARS when we go for family vacation and I do wax my brows for a whopping total of $20/month- yeah, that's why I work 40 hours a week for that huge extra! All in all, I just get tired of hearing about the poor SAHM who has nothing and the evil WM who pawns her kids off to daycare to get massages and manicures. It's tedious. I guess I have realized that most who make those comments are really just that - very one-sided. To absorbed in their own world to truly experience life and all it has to offer. Again it is all about attitude. I have not recieved any, let me just reiterate that for a moment, ANY, negative comments from anybody about being a stay at home mom. EVER. If you are proud of who you are and what you are doing and what you are accomplishing, people see it and understand it. If you are down trodden, I don't know if I spelled that right, and feel that the whole world is out to get you, than that is the attitude you show. You have have hit the nail on the head about a lot of issues lately. These women who put up road blocks on things that they can and cannot do are not a majority. I love being a stay at home mom and I wouldn't trade it for the world. I don't remember what your situation is, if you choose to work or have to, but it to me, each and everyday with my children is an absolute gift. I feel bad that you have heard so much of the negative about what being a SAHM is like. |
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