Quote From: gatinoiseAll four of us - daughters - married controlling manipulative husbands. The result: four disastrous marriages that ended in divorces. The underlying reason: legacy from our parents' modeling.
After 15 years of marriage, one of my sisters started suffering from major depression with psychotic episodes, the result of being in an emotional, psychological, verbal abusive marriage during all those years. After finally going through a very difficult divorce, and trying to get herself together, she moved "back home". She is not rich, so my parents lent her an old car, so she could get around. She also found herself a job, low-paying, but still, a step forward.
My father is not empathetic towards her at all. He bosses her around all the time, and tells her what to do and what not to do. You would think he would encourage her and support her, but no. He is critical the whole time. She reacts by being passive-aggressive, which is not a very mature reaction, but understandable under the circumstances. He could be happy his daughter is close to home. But all he sees are her shortcomings.
Anyways, he did not agree with the job she got herself. So, he took away the car they lent her. She has no way of getting to her place of employment, so she lost her job. My father is justifying himself, which I find just monstrous.
Depression with psychotic features is a true mental illness. I t is in the brain ,it is not caused by abuse but could be aggravated by it.
