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May 8, 2006, 6:23 pm PDT

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Quote From: bethtra

What really frightens me is that these kids will go home and their parents will use everything they said against them and then justify their next beating with it. I grew up in the same situation. As I watched that mother out of control I felt like I had just stepped back in time. My mother was nuts and used to brutilize us. I remember people actually thought she was this wonderful nice person because she had a totally different voice and manuerism for people who weren't her children. Yes, she could turn it off and on like a faucet. There were 4 of us and I was the oldest girl. Usually my brother and I bore most of the brunt. We were physically, mentally and emotionally abused. I remember my mom rubbing feces in my brothers face when he was 5. And one time she made me sleep in my sisters vomit all night when I was 11. She scared me so bad when I was a kid. I don't think anyone ever understands how this feels unless they have lived through it. I still suffer alot of post traumatic stress over this stuff. I have huge trust issues with people. As I watched that tape today I cried and I shook. It really freaked me out. I have had lots and lots of counseling, but even with that watching that stuff can still elicit a huge fear response from me. I guess the thing I could never figure out was why? Why would you hurt an inocent child? The other thing, the dad has his head up his denial rump, my dad was the same way, why, because he was a weak man just like that guy on the show. Too, lazy to step up to the plate and wear the daddy pants. 

I walked your shoes, in many ways we could be the same person.  I hated my parents, especially my mother and found that all it did was make me much more like her.  I finally forgave her, didn't say I will ever forget but I forgave.  I was able to release my pain, fear and I was able to heal.  When I told her I forgave her she cried and we now have a good relationship, it isnt the relationship I have with my children but it is a good one.  Look for the good that your painfu past can bring.  I work with children who are abused, I can understand their pain and help reach them in ways no one else can.  You can be a mentor to some young person who is also crying out in fear and pain.  If there is a reason why, it could just their own pain crying out to hurt because maybe in hurting others they are actually hurting the person(s) who hurt them. God Bless you and be strong.
 


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