Replies to '03/27 More Wifestyles, Part 3'

Quote From: kschmittz

Hello there.  Funny that you see what I was trying to say.  Even though we are on different sides of the fence we see things very similarly.  My point was simply all of us, no matter what end of the spectrum, could sit and whine and complain and blame the world for what we don't have.  I know a lot of WM's who do this, too.  Instead, I try to focus on the positives I do have in my life- I do have GREAT kids, I have a very loving and supportive family (in laws, too) even if they aren't close to help out, I have a great husband and yes, I do have employable skills which gives me the ability to also provide for my family.  At the end of the day, it's good to know my kids are taken care of.  That's my goal- providing for my children.  Some can do that on one income, we can't.  I also challenge the thought process of some who think that once school starts that free time is in abundance.  I beg to differ!  I think it only gets harder.  No more doing things by my schedule (whatever that may be) now it 's time to be here or there at certain times, homework (yes, even in Kindergarten), PTA, after school stuff and volunteering gets rough especially if you have more than one.  In fact, our goal is to try and figure out how I can stay home in the next couple of years when my youngest starts.  We were able to juggle this long and be there for the oldest but I want the same level for the other.  Not sure if we can do that with two...we'll see.  Somehow we'll get by.  BTW,  the choosing vs. having to work issue...I look at it like we all make choices..mine are simply to pay the bills!  Yes, I feel I have to work to provide what's important to me...I could SH and get welfare and have nothing for my kids but I work and provide medical, dental and vision benefits for us, retirement via pension and 401K, soon college deductions, Christmas Club money and the list goes on.   Again, choices I make for my kids and my house.  I don't think there's anything glorious about raising kids in poverty.  Good to see you back!

Quote From: kschmittz

Hello there.  Funny that you see what I was trying to say.  Even though we are on different sides of the fence we see things very similarly.  My point was simply all of us, no matter what end of the spectrum, could sit and whine and complain and blame the world for what we don't have.  I know a lot of WM's who do this, too.  Instead, I try to focus on the positives I do have in my life- I do have GREAT kids, I have a very loving and supportive family (in laws, too) even if they aren't close to help out, I have a great husband and yes, I do have employable skills which gives me the ability to also provide for my family.  At the end of the day, it's good to know my kids are taken care of.  That's my goal- providing for my children.  Some can do that on one income, we can't.  I also challenge the thought process of some who think that once school starts that free time is in abundance.  I beg to differ!  I think it only gets harder.  No more doing things by my schedule (whatever that may be) now it 's time to be here or there at certain times, homework (yes, even in Kindergarten), PTA, after school stuff and volunteering gets rough especially if you have more than one.  In fact, our goal is to try and figure out how I can stay home in the next couple of years when my youngest starts.  We were able to juggle this long and be there for the oldest but I want the same level for the other.  Not sure if we can do that with two...we'll see.  Somehow we'll get by.  BTW,  the choosing vs. having to work issue...I look at it like we all make choices..mine are simply to pay the bills!  Yes, I feel I have to work to provide what's important to me...I could SH and get welfare and have nothing for my kids but I work and provide medical, dental and vision benefits for us, retirement via pension and 401K, soon college deductions, Christmas Club money and the list goes on.   Again, choices I make for my kids and my house.  I don't think there's anything glorious about raising kids in poverty.  Good to see you back!