Quote From: stress2farBelieve me I understand... I have run into a few bullies. The first had me also in tears.. pitting me between other members of my work group whom I respected. And the never ending string of f'ing this and f'ing that. This was a woman working for a Fortune 500 company (at the time).
I had a department manager that finally reighned her in. In large corporations that is easier.. they do not like publicity of such things. Another bully I worked with also drove me to resign but not without documenting my reasons in a calm and sane letter of resignation that went to the president of the company. I was treated with respect from them.
I am lucky to now,,, finally be working for some truly nice people but for a third of what I was making
in my previous "life". I had 28 years in that life.. it is time I found a good place.
There are still some tensions in different areas of the opposite extreme. Probably some scars
from the prior encounters. But life has a funny way of straightening things out.
Thank God I am only part time ... I need more time to adjust from a case of techie burnout.
Hang in there.... there are many out here that can relate.
I am so sorry for your situation. I totally understand being in tears everyday. I went through this for almost a year in a preschool setting. My boss cursed, threatened, demeaned me and others, lied in the name of intimidation, etc. I had gotten glowing reviews until she came along and somehow got the idea that I wanted her job. She had a rough marriage, would emotionally and verbally abuse her children on the phone at the preschool and then turn her hostilities on several of us. She even told us at one point that her personality was such that she had to have a target in the workplace and if we didn't like it we could go f------- ourselves. She also threatened us if we ever went to the Board of Directors. She would get rid of teachers one at a time. Eventually, I became her target (after she dismissed 3 other good teachers). My whole story is on another post. Anyway, I am grateful for a different job and new, polar opposite supervisors who make work a pleasure. I understand about scars, I have them too. I am not very open with co-workers about my life and am very quick to blame myself too harshly when things don't go 100%. Good luck on your new job.
