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August 25, 2005, 2:48 pm PDT
 Quote From: movingon88 I didn't see the show the first time, and have been hoping this subject would be aired.
I can't believe the stupidity of some of the posters on this site. If you have not been in this situation, you have no knowledge of what you might do and can therefore have no right to criticize. I was just recently divorced from an alcholic who would not recognize he has a problem. I was subjected to much verbal abuse and it was just about to turn physical. You have no idea what constant verbal abuse and alcoholism will do to your sanity.
I think Dr. Phil has incorrectly put most of the blame on the wife. If she had married a non-alcoholic, I don't believe she would have behaved this way. I'm not saying that what she is doing is right, especially for the children's sake, but I do believe that the husband is much more at fault for this than the wife. On the other hand, the situation should not have been allowed to escalate into this severe physical violence. Healthy people would have recognized this problem a long time ago and done something about it. These are not healthy people, but they can become better through therapy and association with AA and Al-Anon. It will never get better if he continues to drink.
Just my 2 cents.
I definitely disagree with you about the wife. She is a nurse and is suppose to know better. The only reason her husband is sitting on tv alive is because she did not hit him in the right place. Who gives her to right to beat someone like that? If it had been done to her there would be a great up roar. Imagine her daughter standing there with her hands over her ears. The child had to be frightened. The reason her husband drinks probably has a lot to do with his abusive wife. I would not want to be married to either of them and as a former abusee, I know the horrors of being abused. Being stomped, run out of the apartment naked, terrified of losing my life, robbed and verbally abused until one day I could not take it anymore. I packed my daughter and left. I have been free every since. Abuse is no joke no matter how people try to cover it up. My abuser was fine in the first two years we were together. Then one day he slapped me and after that the beatings were regularly dispensed. He was cheating on me with a very young girl. It was in my bed that he took her virginity and I got beaten up because I complained. Then she got pregnant and showed him just how young and pathetic she was and I got beat again. I did not know such terror could exist and I was so very glad that I had somewhere to go. When I left him I never returned and I have never seen him again. I did hear that he robbed a bank and went to jail, but I felt that jail was too good for him. I also learned that while he was engaged to me, that he already had a wife and he was abusing her at the same time he was abusing me. It was an unbelieveable situation. I hope this family can receive the help they need and that the children will not be scarred in the future. Thank you for allowing me to vent. |
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