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May 10, 2006, 2:59 pm PDT
05/11 Mind Your Business
Quote From: rexmomebbIt is funny that I just saw the write up on this episode. My kids and I had a lively discussion today on this very topic. It began around the idea of internet safety and my ability to watch their posts, moniter e-mail and control im. It morphed into a "what if" session. To date, I have had no reason to distrust my kids. We talk often and have open discussions about drugs/sex/cheating/bullying etc. I have always, however, warned my kids that if I have reason to believe they are unsafe or doing something that might hurt them, I would search their rooms. They sent up a howl of "no fair" to my "reminder" of our family policy. We had a great debate on the rights of children etc. The bottom line on this issue for me is that while my kids are minors, I am responsible for them. More importantly, I would crawl through broken glass to keep them safe. If I thought they were in a dangerous situation there is nothing I would do not to help them. As to when they are adults ... I believe you have to have faith that you raised them right and give them space. Thank you for saying that! Yes you do have to have faith that you have raised them right. My parents refuse to do that and it frustrates me everyday. It causes me a certain amount of stress daily.
Parents need to let go and stop trying to "raise" their adult children.
My MIL is a beautiful example of how to be a mother to adult children. She treats me with respect and love but she still maintains her place as a mother. She offers advice when asked for it and sees me and my husband an adults who have a life of our own and she is THANKFUL that she gets to be a part of our lives.
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