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August 25, 2005, 3:40 pm PDT
Dr Phil says...
Quote From: hercules12Thanks for the reply
My mother takes the mental and emotional abuse too. My father has said more than once he wants to walk out on both her and the rest of the family. My father's mental and emotional abuse is so bad that he caused my mother to slip into a mild depresion. My father has always had a bad temper but over the past couple years it has got to the point where it is unbareable. Hopefully within the next couple months I can satrt looking for a place of my own. I know this sounds awefull but when I do leave, I don't want to see my father for a long time...I need a serious break from him and his temper. For some reason he has the attitute that he knows everything and he seems to think the would has to stop and revolve around him. One of these days, this attitute of my fathers will catch up with him and he will be in for a real shock.
Thanks for the reply
And more important, thanks for the support. I appreciate the support. We teach others how to treat us. Your father is teaching you how to run away from him. Don't feel guilty about it and don't apologise for it. Parents are supposed to be loving and nurturing, but some are not. That is not your fault. It's only your fault if you follow in his footsteps. If he is that bad, maybe you can give your younger siblings a safe place to land when you get out. Personally, I wouldn't wait too long, I would rent for awhile if I had to.
I had a friend when I was a young adult who left home at 17. She had herself declared an adult and worked parttime after school, while living at a friend's till she graduated. She would take in her mother and younger brother and sister when the father was drinking and beating on them. I never could understand why the mother stayed with him, but she did. We can choose not behave the way we were taught, and we can choose good people to surround us.
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