Quote From: dougiesmomYou ask the question - "What if it doesn't work?"....There are no guarantee's in parenthood unfortunately. None of these little gaffers are born with instructions and we can only do the best we can do at that moment i time. I'm a Child Protection worker (Social worker) in Alberta and have fostered over 60 kids along with my husband and we adopted our son 9 years ago. I have seen some very fortunate childreen who have been lucky enough to be adopted an dothers who have passed from foster home to foster home and then people begin to question why these kids are so angry when they hit their teens. We also have 2 children each biologically....I defy anyone to figure out by our actions which one is adopted....and while he came with some questions about his prenaatal care and health everything has turned out wonderfully.
I often tell the story of when I was pregnant with my daughter who is now 22 years old. I was very very sick during the pregnancy and ended up in hospital for the last two months before she was born - in fact they induced her some 6 weeks early as they were not sure if I could last that much longer to deliver her I was that ill. At the same time I had a friend who sailed through a very "normal" pregnancy...I delivered a very tiny but healthy baby girl who has some minor learning disabilities around reading. but who graduated from College last year. She delivered a little girl who has an extreme case of cerbral palsy who is not able to do anything really - fed through a G tube, has never sat up or walked on her own etc....My point being that even in giving birth to your own it might not "work out" the way you want it to but I believe a loving, structured environment with parents who are open to reading and learning all they can about everything can work miracles.
Good Luck
Cheryl
There are no guarantees in parenthood" so glad you said that. When a 40 year old is trying to adopt a baby and is putting all these stipulations on what they will and will not acccept like they are shopping for new car.Drives me absolutely insane. Or the people who talk about the cost of invitro,(so they only do it once), they don't want to wait the 10 years to be on a list for the province (less costly), go on the drug therapy program for six months and quit.If they were too get pregnant on there own, there would be a really good chance that it might have birth defects. I think people who truly want to be parents are the ones that would do anything. I also believe love comes from very strange places. I had a nurse freind that worked in the maternity ward that the baby was just left at the hospital. It had been born with it's bladder outside the body. When she tells the story it really is amazing. She had just had her baby girl two years earlier and really wasn't even contiplating having another just yet. After looking after this child for months,she came home one day and told her husband they were adopting a baby boy. She couldn't bear to leave this child in the hospital.She gave him a home.There was many surgeries over the years, but with her and her husbands love and support his life is pretty normal. Plays sports etc.....I think that being an adopted child, not ever having the desire to find my birth parents, not liking everything about my adopted parents either, all you can do is hope for the best and thank them everyday for being here.Your life will become what you make it.
