Quote From: bball4lifeShe used to not talk to him. Well, you are so right, what do you think of this plan and how do you think it could pan out? OK, well right now she is staying with the baby's dad's aunt, and the dad actually stays there occasionally. I have some weight to lose and some issues to resolve within myself. Maybe untill I get comfortable with myself, and she is comfortable being with me, we can try again. But one of my biggest fears is that she will be or already has been with the baby's dad again....SHould i go out and find someone to hang out with while she is gone???
I think what you are saying as a plan, sounds like a good plan, but first you may want to talk to her, and let her know you have recognized the changes you need to make in your own life, irregardless of her decisions, and let her know you would like another chance, once you have made what changes you need to make in your life.
You want her to be honest with her, as well as she being honest with you. Let her know you are going to make these changes no matter, but if she thinks you should move on, then move on. IF she thinks there is a chance, then it would not be appropriate for you to be seeing others if she is waiting on you. ONE thing you need to make sure you are willing to do is, if she tells you you need to move on, accept it, and move on. If she is honest enough to tell you you should move on, don't go attempting to convince her to change her mind. You would have already told her of the changes you are going to be making in your life, so if even after that she wants to go on without you, accept it, and both will be happier, either way it goes.
I hope this helps. Good luck, and let us know how things go.
