Quote From: la1219Now I find out that my sister is going to be a bridesmaid in my brother's wedding and I am hurt. I was fine and happy that my neice was going to be in the wedding but when I found out that my sister is in the wedding and a bridesmaid I felt hurt, sad, and angry. My brother has two sisters but only one is going to be in his wedding. I really want to refuse to even go to the wedding but my love for my brother is stronger than what I feel about the wedding. I won't miss my brother's special day and I won't miss my neice being the flower girl. Saturday my sister and my future sister in law are going shopping to buy their dresses and my mom, my niece, and the bride's mom is tagging along. Yet I was not asked to go and my neice wants me to go but I won't go unless invited. My parents think that basically I should get over the fact that I was not asked to be in the wedding. What should I do or say? How would you feel if you were in my place?
Your brother's fiance hasn't thought her wedding through. She's responding to suggestions from all and sundry in an effort to please. Someone says a young flower girl would be charming - your niece gets included. Someone says children can be difficult and overawed by the occasion - your sister gets included to keep your niece on the straight and narrow.
Another type of woman would have thought through the ramifications of various choices and made her own decisions, which would have treated people in the same position eg sisters of the groom in the same way.
Well the bride has chosen the behaviour and the consequences (Dr Phil - life law). She starts married life with all the sensible women at her wedding thinking she's a fluffy airhead who doesn't understand how family life can be affected by little things like the choice of bridesmaids. And to rub it in further you get to swan around in a gorgeous outfit of YOUR CHOICE showing how maturely you accept the situation.
