Replies to '05/12 Toxic Relationships'

  My husband says that he is not controlling because he doesn't tell me what to do, where I can go, or how I am spending our money (which I control.)  I tried by being the better person today by asking him to put this behind us and asked him to do the same and once again he has said that he did not do anything wrong...but I did EVERYTHING wrong with the situation with our son Chris.   

How  can I punish a boy for one week in his room for his little brother falling and hurting himself.  He feels bad enough that his brother got hurt!   

Are all the red flags being waived and am I in denial of seeing that??? PLEASE RESPOND! 

you are being abaused by your husband who is controlling you.   Your son will be badly damaged by a grown up ignoring him for so long.  you need to go and take both kids with you really I am not joking this is so wrong.  My son is 9 as well and his head is in the clouds and all he thinks about is Pokemon - he's 9 godammit - that's his childhood.  You have to put your children first especially when marrried to someone who is quite obviously a bully.  Mend the rift with your parents too how dare your husband tell you who you can and can't see, how dare he bully your little boy like this.  Get away from him asap before you lose all your confidence and before he damages your children any further. 

By the way it is not a 9 year old's job to babysit I think like if you got a babysitter in they would have to be a certain age like over 9 years old! 

There's that word controlling again. It's always used when speaking toward the man. ( O.K. not always, but most of the time ) I have found that these kind of women seek out men that can take care of things and be in control of certain things and then turn around and call him controlling later in the marriage. They weren't worried about his controlling ways when he was taking care of business for them and theirs. But, now that things are smoothed out a little they want him to be considerate and caring and even cry every once in a while. You can't have it both ways. You want your cake and to eat it too. Let's face it there are not too many men out there like DR. Phil. We don't even know how DR. Phil really is in private. But I am sure their home life was better than most. 

Ladies you need to be more careful in your selection as to which horse you attach your cart too. It is you the woman who will have to adapt your life to fit around his. Not the opposite. That is reality. It may not be " fair ". Look at  Dr. Phils wife. She is Mrs. Phil Mcgraw,  he is not Mr.(her 1st and last name) That is natural. I know most of you women don't like it, but you would be better off if you would just face the facts and plan your life accordingly. Instead of trying to mold your man into this person he will never be. 

Listen to your inner self, that little voice within, the voice of right and wrong.  You know that these whispers reflect the path to peace.  Additionally, you are aware  that this treatment of your son, yourself and your parents is so obviously harsh and incorrect.  You can pray that the wrong is made right!   Don't, however, let this continue.  You, your son, and your parents deserve respect, integrity and love.  Do what you must to achieve these things.  This jealous spirit needs to witness that your strength and love for your family will not be denied.  Good Luck & God Bless You!