Quote From: newhope76
Hello,
I have an issue that eats away at me daily and I figured I would get soem objective opinions. I had an best freind for 2o yrs...while now I realize it was mostly toxic. During that time we had many "joint" friends. However my best friend of 20 yrs treated me like dirt, used me and betrayed me. During the course of that time we met another friend and we all used to hang out all the time. One day my ex best friend decided to not talk to our new friend anymore, for no good reason, and the new friend was fine with it. Then when I decided that I had to let go of this toxic friendship with my ex best friend, she ran right to our "new" friend whom I had become very close with, as well as some other joint friends. However all of my other friends stood by me and said they had no desire to be freinds with my ex best friend who was toxic. However this one new friend has decided to become friends again with my ex best friend because she never "really: did anything to hurt her. Now my ex best friend is even planning to go visit her and it makes me sick. How can someone that I value as a close freind want my ex best friend in thier life. I hate to make her choose, but I just cant stomache this relationship. Any advice would be appreciated.
thanks in advance ;0)
You really can't make your friend choose. Just be their friend like always. If this ex friend did this stuff to you, it's likely she'll do it to your friend. I've been in this position , and my friend was so supportive and good to me, even though she still remains friends with my ex friend to this day. We've already lost one, don't push your other friend away!
PS. Don't loose faith in yourself that you can find more supportive people to surround you!
