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Quote From: everlast

 Hi all, first time poster.

I'm a 21 year old male from the great state of Michigan.  I was in a relationship for over 4 years with whom I thought was the love of my life.  From the start of the relationship we had issues (I would say a combination of me being jealous and her not being able to let go)...Needless to say we had many of issues with her ex boyfriend. 

Years went by and I kept finding out she was being unfaithful, persay, in that it was per a verbal agreement not to talk to our exes (we both had one in particular we each needed to stay way from).  I would find out she was either talking to him or having phone sex, either way very hurtful.

We would break up or take time and end up back together.  So let's cut to last December.  I discovered she had been talking to him again, behind my back. More phone sex.  I found this at the same time I was looking at rings and we were looking for an apartment. I promptly dumped her. The next day I had a death in the family and quickly fell back into her arms.

We fought and were unhappy for several months until 4 months ago she wanted a week apart to see if we would appreciate each other.  I went to a party, met some new friends, and she saw pictures. She freaked and it went down hill from there.  I personally went downhill, and became addicted to some prescription drugs (valium or xanax, and vicodin) with alcohol.  Still to this day I am addicted,  but it helps relieve my anxiety; which I've always had issues with. I just cannot fix this issue at this point and have accepted it for what it is worth.

During this past few months she has changed so much. She met someone new, quickly lost him, and is infatuated with him.  Being typical for herself, not being able to let go. So now SHE drinks heavily and parties hard and it just is not the girl I fell in love with.   Not to mention she talks to her ex all the time now and he is engaged to a woman.  She seems very interested in him and that situation is going to be nasty.

Now we are attempting to be friends (have so much in common), but both have expressed not being interested in each other at this point in time.  We talk nearly daily and recently have started cuddling,  kissing, and hanging out a lot.  One night I spent the night at her new apartment..Big mistake, we made love, and I woke up in her arms. But she continually asks how I feel and ensures that I know she doesn't wish to date me. She keeps getting everything she wants from me, I just cannot say no.  No reason she doesn't want to date; I'm no challenge.

I am here numb and don't know what else to type. She's the complete opposite of who I fell in love with, and I am so angry with her. I think of getting back with her and having to worry about her ex all over again and everything else.. But yet being in her arms and kissing her feels so right.  I don't know how to say goodbye, or if I should.  I don't know if I have hope for the future but I really don't know how to approach her with this situation and I really cannot take much more.  Between the drugs and alcohol and depression this path cannot get any worse. One of these times i'll end up without a pulse or in a coma....

Thanks

Quote From: everlast

 Hi all, first time poster.

I'm a 21 year old male from the great state of Michigan.  I was in a relationship for over 4 years with whom I thought was the love of my life.  From the start of the relationship we had issues (I would say a combination of me being jealous and her not being able to let go)...Needless to say we had many of issues with her ex boyfriend. 

Years went by and I kept finding out she was being unfaithful, persay, in that it was per a verbal agreement not to talk to our exes (we both had one in particular we each needed to stay way from).  I would find out she was either talking to him or having phone sex, either way very hurtful.

We would break up or take time and end up back together.  So let's cut to last December.  I discovered she had been talking to him again, behind my back. More phone sex.  I found this at the same time I was looking at rings and we were looking for an apartment. I promptly dumped her. The next day I had a death in the family and quickly fell back into her arms.

We fought and were unhappy for several months until 4 months ago she wanted a week apart to see if we would appreciate each other.  I went to a party, met some new friends, and she saw pictures. She freaked and it went down hill from there.  I personally went downhill, and became addicted to some prescription drugs (valium or xanax, and vicodin) with alcohol.  Still to this day I am addicted,  but it helps relieve my anxiety; which I've always had issues with. I just cannot fix this issue at this point and have accepted it for what it is worth.

During this past few months she has changed so much. She met someone new, quickly lost him, and is infatuated with him.  Being typical for herself, not being able to let go. So now SHE drinks heavily and parties hard and it just is not the girl I fell in love with.   Not to mention she talks to her ex all the time now and he is engaged to a woman.  She seems very interested in him and that situation is going to be nasty.

Now we are attempting to be friends (have so much in common), but both have expressed not being interested in each other at this point in time.  We talk nearly daily and recently have started cuddling,  kissing, and hanging out a lot.  One night I spent the night at her new apartment..Big mistake, we made love, and I woke up in her arms. But she continually asks how I feel and ensures that I know she doesn't wish to date me. She keeps getting everything she wants from me, I just cannot say no.  No reason she doesn't want to date; I'm no challenge.

I am here numb and don't know what else to type. She's the complete opposite of who I fell in love with, and I am so angry with her. I think of getting back with her and having to worry about her ex all over again and everything else.. But yet being in her arms and kissing her feels so right.  I don't know how to say goodbye, or if I should.  I don't know if I have hope for the future but I really don't know how to approach her with this situation and I really cannot take much more.  Between the drugs and alcohol and depression this path cannot get any worse. One of these times i'll end up without a pulse or in a coma....

Thanks