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May 18, 2006, 3:00 pm PDT
I'm still there
Quote From: dgtiptonI've been there myself but for me it took 31 years to get out. My fault for ever putting myself through it for so long but we have three sons that I would have and still would do anything for. So my feelings and my wants and needs were put on hold until they were grown up and left home, once the last son left home so did I. What a horrible life living this way. I worked full time, did all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, everything the kids needed. He worked and helped pay the bills, that was his job to hear him tell it. The wife's job (in his mind) way to cook, clean, raise the kids, be a wife and run the house and of course work a public job, while he did what he wanted to do. Yes, they do change once they say I do! I have been there for 30 years this year. The wheels fell off about 14 years ago. About a year ago I told him I was out of here. Since then he has gone for help but I think too little too late. My only fear is the kids maybe are suffering by me staying. I only stay because I have two kids in university and one that will be there in 2 years. I can't support them with their education if I don't stay. My husband comes from a divorced family and his dad was a big verbal abuser. I know that when my last is out so am I. Since I told the kids about how awful it is to stay one is failing at university and didn't want to tell us because we had our own problems and the youngest has gone from 80% to failing 2 course (20%) maybe I should get out even though financial we won't be in very good shape. Maybe we could be a semi normal family with out him. If they want to have a relationship with their dad it's up to them. I always figured if I had to do everyithing in the house and work full-time at least I had his income. I really think that men should get into the 2000 century and realize that we all have to give 100% and get of their butts when they come in from work.
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