Replies to '08/23 My Fiancé is a Stalker'

I have only been out of this type of relationship since September of 2005. It is still very painful for me and emotionally exhausting. I have a "no contact order" that was established Feb. 2, 2006, and he still calls me or makes contact with me. To this day, I am not sure what is wrong with him, but I have researched everything possible. Here is a list of his behaviors: lies--even when he doesn't have to, lies about places he is, was, or is on business too. He claims to always be seeing someone else or have girls flirting with him, when in fact, there is no one, he would drink and lie about doing it, he would come to my home when I wasn't there and go through my diary, my phone messages, my mail, he constantly followed me to school, to work, to my sons' afterschool activities, he told me I was a no one, would never be more than trailer trash and could at any time look me in the eye and say he loved me or he didn't love me. He blamed me for everything that went wrong in his life and allowed our relationship only when he allowed it. He was very jealous and locked me in bathrooms to interrogate me if any other man looked at me or spoke to me. It wasn't out of the ordinary for him to tell another man that if I smiled at him he would punch them in the face...  

How to get out? I still suffer to this day -- the only thing that has helped me is staying away from him, not answering his phone calls and not conversing in anyway possible. Even with all the court hearings, he hasn't went to jail and still threatens to kill me. I feel lost most of the time and scared other parts of the time. I wish you good luck in your relationship and pray that you wil lget away from him as soon as possible.