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May 16, 2006, 9:11 am PDT
Speak for yourself, foof
Quote From: foofdogHow can you say it has been 'worth it'? You are in serious denial. I have never, ever seen a happy marriage in my whole life. Not one. No, "it" does not get better. One gets bored. Old. Fat. Set in Ways. The spark is long past. The only good marriage I've ever seen is Dr. Phil's and he is blessed with intelligence, patience, Oprah and T.V.-- to see it through and still be in love. All the stupid, lamebrained people are just plain stuck with the idea of a happy marriage. Sitting around "hoping" it would get better. Dang B.S. And in this case where the woman has stayed for seven years, well, that might as well be ME; just add 7 more years and change the names around. I am in hell even as I type this. -N.A. I think the poster you responded to made the point of saying she didn't sit around hoping dopey Husband would get better. She moved on, found a solid mate, and has a happy marriage with its shared of ups and downs - and that on the whole, the better has outweiged the worse, and made the marriage a worthwhile journey.
I've only been married 15 years, and who knows what tomorrow holds. And we've had our share of troubles ...but I adore my husband. I could go on for hours about why. He's wicked funny, smart, or good character, loving, generous of spirit...we are still plenty "sparky" and my desire for him has not dimmed a bit....and he still is chasing after me.
If he turned to a troll tomorrow, I couldn't be anything but grateful for the privilege of being married to him for as long as I have been. We've been sad. W've had troubles, setbacks, fights. I We may have more...but as hokey as it sounds, there is nobody I'd rather have by my side for what yet may come.
That's my definition of a happy marriage. I wonder what yours is that you think a marriage can only be called happy if everything is always trouble free sunshine. lollipops, hearts and flowers.
There's nothing that makes like happier than a good friend you really respect who pitches in to make things as good as they can be.
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