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I am married to a man who simply represents all the things I hate in human beings.He had a rough life being abandoned while his mum was pregnant with him and being raised by a ruthless, materialistic and vindictive mother.You probably think what a poor fellow!!well think again coz he ended up being a copy cat of his mum& dad!!!!!!!I can not explain it!!I always try not to let my kids suffer from what I had to go through but strangly enough he is making us all suffer the poverty,instability and insecurity of his life.He is miserly, irritable,selfis ,rude and introvert.When he goes outside and meet people he turns into the polite and helpful man but as soon as we are alone he turns defensive.He feels that he is being abused and used by us even if we asked him to drive us to the supermarket!!He beat me at times and verbally abuses me all the time.I have no money and no family so I stay on with him but I loathe him and I despise my self.Now, Iam turning into an edgy,nervous,insecure woman who eats as a way out of her troubles.Please can you solve the mystery of his character?why does he abuse us???how can I be happy again???   

please help me!