iI have been married for over 27 yrs, and we went together 5 yr before we married. We didn't spent nights together or live together til 6 months before we married. Since we have gotten married we have sex at the most 2-3 times a year. I have even asked him if we worn it out before we got married-since he was always interested and willing to please me before we married. The few time we do have sex it is just for him-done in less than 2 minutes. when I try to talk to him-he just won't talk about it. He turns a deaf ear, and shuts me out.
He is the head deacon @ our church, and is a wonderful Chrisitan, and wonderful person. Everyone loves him. He works very hard, and would never cheat-just doesn't want sex with me. He is only 48 years old, and my second marraiage-his first. I am 9 years older than him-but don't look my age, and act younger than him.
Believe me it only gets worse!!! When we did go to counseling I was told that he would never change. I had 3 options-I could continue living as I am, get a divorce, or have affairs. None of these options was the answer I wanted to hear. Now 5 years later, I have came to the same thoughts. Now he refuses to even think about us getting help-we should be able to work it out. I have about given up! Our church doesn't believe in divorce. With his position in the church I can not even go to our pastor!
Any ideas?
