Quote From: fluffyfatI get sick of women who call themselves feminists but refuse to have any respect for work done in the home, strictly because it has traditional been done by women. Amy needs to respect herself and the work she has agreed to do. She needs to treat her duties in the home with the same serioussness that she would if she had a job outside the home. I pointed out what I do, not to brag but to refute her claim that she doesn't have time to do it all. I don't think I'm superior at all, I know women who do everything I do, have houses twice as big as mine and twice as many children as I do and still manage to do it all. I'm using myself and the size of my house as an example to show that If I can do it, she can do it.
I know Greg was being a jerk when he got angry-- he admitted as much. What I mean by defending him is that I think he has every right to expect a clean home, meals and coffee on time and clean clothing. At one time my husband was between jobs and I worked outside the home. He kept the house clean and had dinner on the table when I got home. It is not a gender issue it is a division of labor issue. Greg does his part by working a full time job. Amy isn't doing her part. it's that simple.
If Amy doesn't want to be a housewife she should get a job.
I'm not a feminist, and I disagree with your attitude. I believe the women's place is in the home but your suggestion that if a woman wants respect from her husband and HELP from him when he comes home that we are being lazy and not living up to our wifely duties. When I first started staying home my husband would get after me for not doing things good enough. He told me that doing the chores was how I earned my keep and that basically he was my boss and he should be allowed to inspect my work and say it was not up to snuff. I should mention that the reason I was home was because I was 2 month pregnant and so sick I could work anymore. We had many fights and finally found some middle ground. As I began feeling better I made an extra effort to get the house looking better (though there were still nights I was so sick I couldn't even think about food) and my husband learned to lighten up and appreciate my efforts. I asked him last night if he still felt the way he used to and he said he was very foolish then and has since learned differently. Not because I preached feminist stuff to him, but because he realized my value and his role better.
So I have lots of respect for work done in the home, becaise I do it. Am I perfect at it? Well apparently not to your golden standards. I make homemade dinners everynight, but they're are not always ready exactly as my husband walks in the door because life happens. You got a screaming baby in one are while trying to cook and it has to be speedy. And you can't tell me that the whole time you have been a stay at home mom that EVERY meal was served right on time. I just would not believe it.
So why not come on down from your high horse and join the rest of us SAHM who understand that we have a tough job. And just like every other job out there we're not as efficent some days as we would like to be.
Now I have to go because my son is screaming and I have to figure out what to make for dinner, water the plants, straighten up, and find myself a low calorie snack. ;)
