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May 24, 2006, 7:26 pm PDT
Im not a doctor but Im there.
Quote From: akfem1My situation probably isn't as extreme as some of the others on this board are, but I was hoping you could help me anyway.
How do I establish a close, loving relationship with my emotionally distant father?
My dad has always been emotionally distant from me. When I got married it got even worst, almost like I wasn't his daughter anymore. He never comes around to see my kids or asks me how I am doing. Everytime I try to reach out to him he pulls away, almost like he can't take it.
This is going to sound to extremely childish but I'm 35 yrs old and I still wish my dad would just hold me and say "I love you" to me.
Have any of you experienced this? How did it feel for you to have emotionally distant parents? Is there any way I can have a close relationship with him? I'm 23 years old. And though I don't have a doctors degree I do have experience with an emotionally and physically distant father. The truth is, that he might just not know how to take responsibility. My father sure didn't. Something Dr.Phil said that I have never forgot is that sometimes a relationship is 99.9% you working and 0.01% them. I guess you have to decide if the relationship is worth it to you. Also, you might have unrealistic expectations of your father, he might not have ever been taught to do the things you expect. I know it sounds harsh, but it's a reality. Most men just don't get it. What you need is to learn how to love yourself, and to be there for yourself. I wish you the best of luck.
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