Quote From: ken_amberWell let's just say I know a little something about cheating Fiances. What I've learned is this. There IS a reason for the behavior. Be it they experienced it firsthand as a child growing up seeing their own parents struggle with infedelity, or their own personal insecurities which drives them for that extra sense of acceptance and love from another (or several other) people. Sometimes though people are just not ready to settle down and naturally crave the attention and so it really ISN'T a good idea to be committed to anyone.
I'm not saying the behavior is excusable AT ALL. I'm just saying in some cases I do believe it is forgivable in some cases, and if the person gets the issue that drives them resolved, I believe the risk of it ever happening again diminishes. SOMETHING causes people to cheat. SOMETHING is driving a person who is intentionally doing something they know is wrong and unhealthy to their relationship. I have faith in this Dr. Phil episode... he'll get to the bottom of things. He always does and I can sure say he did for Ken and I!
Amber, I couldn't help but notice your post here.
All this revelation in such a short time...2 1/2 months.
Amber, I truly hope that your denial of the pattern of behavior and young years will not lead you astray .
I truly wish the best for you, your mom and your child.
I have concerns that there is so much acceptance and priviledge being given your stalker and abuser.
It will take more than 2 1/2 months to undo the ingrained belief system that Ken has held.
Please be careful.
on another note, teach your mom to use the computer and the internet...most especially these message boards....she is still a "young gal" ready, eager and willing to learn.
I am thankful that you have your mom...she's a great support.
Take care.
