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July 27, 2005, 4:11 am PDT
 Quote From: oreo84 Hey guys. Yep, I'm still on the boards. Well, things aren't really going that well for me. At this point, I don't know.... my mom is back to her usual self (which is MEAN). My step dad is still as mean as ever. I met a guy who is 22 so it's like illegal to date him, not that I can anyway. I've been told that I have an eating disorder. I really haven't been going to counseling but I did go this last time. I feel like I'm wasting my counselors time. My dad had met with my mom to talk to her about my brothers and I going to live with him and all. So far my mom is telling him no. My dad however, told me that if we want to live with him then we can despite if our mom doesn't want us too. He feels like there is more going on at home then what we tell him and he's being very adament about us living with him...... I don't know..... I guess I shouldn't complain about my life since I'm not doing much to change it........ Oreo Im sorry things arent going well for you, Oreo. :( You havent mentioned much about your mother and im wondering if you can tell me the mean things she does?(besides close her eyes to her husbands behavior~which is mean enough in my opinion)
I think perhaps you feel the counselor is a waste of time because you are scared of throwing it all out on the table? Im no shrink but it seems an easy thing to say its a waste of time and you dont want to go as opposed to telling the counselor all that has gone on with you. Course, I think I have harrassed you enough over speaking to your counselor. Getting tired of me always saying that to you? Too bad! :P tehe Just teasing you sweetie! ;)
Did you know alot of people who have been sexually abused are anerexic? Alot of people feel that their weight and eating are about the only things in their control when abused. Since others have so much control over us, how we eat and what we eat seems to be at least one thing about our bodies we can still be in charge of. I dont know if your anerexic Oreo, just mentioning... I do know that eating proper food can help your mind and body. I also know a couple women who eat and eat and eat and are as skinny as can be. *jealous face* lol Perhaps you are like them and just have a higher metabolism. Focus on eating healthy and if you do try not to worry about what others may think of your appearance. As long as you eat as you should, youre doing what you need to.
Now about this man you met... You sound interested. Are you? I havent heard you speak of a boyfriend or any guys you are interested in once since ive known you on this board. So even that you bring him up makes me wonder if you are wanting a relationship with him. I know he is older then you, and perhaps im wrong to tell you this, but when I met my husband I was 17 and he was 25! I didnt much care that it was illegal to date him. LOL Course, I was almost 18, but still... How come you said you couldnt date him if you wanted? You are not allowed to date? Is he a good man? Do you know him well? Details on that whole thing if you dont mind.
About your dad, I think he probably has an idea of whats going on and wants to get you out of the house to protect you. How have you been feeling about that? Are you wanting to go with him?
Normally I would agree with someone who says they arent doing much to change their lives so they shouldnt complain. Im a big one on actions when things arent working. But youre young sweetie and in a bad place so it isnt the same to me. You go ahead and complain all you want! I think you have more then earned that right!
p.s. I have tried to make paragraphs in this post for easier reading but its not working as it did before. Anyone know how to do paragraphs in this new format? I double spaced between them but it still comes up all bunched together. |
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