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May 23, 2006, 7:48 pm PDT
in a similar boat
Quote From: jroyal72After 13+ years of sobriety, my alcoholic husband started drinking about 2 years ago. At first, I didn't realize it--he had every excuse in the book for his actions and I was very gullible. We've been married almost 33 years and I don't want our marriage to end, but his alcoholism is ruining our life. He promises to quit -- and does for a day or two. He refuses to go to AA -- it's "not for me." I've now had him sign a "Sobriety Contract." If he violates the terms, he has to move out. It's not what I want, but it's what I need. We're taping Wednesday's show because we'll be at a Bible study class....we'll watch it together (he really does want to be sober and maybe this show will be a wake up call). I keep praying and God keeps listening.... I've not been married to my alcoholic near as long, but I certainly know your feelings very well. In the 6 yrs we've been together he's been in rehab 3 times, in jail (for short periods) 2 times, been arrested twice once with his 3rd DUI, we've had unbelieveable financial problems due to his drinking & the consequences thereof, he's generally made life very difficult. Like your husband, he says AA is "not for him" & he doesn't get anything out of sitting around listening to others' problems, etc. All that to say I too still am praying, knowing that God is listening & is more than able to work a miracle in our lives. Nothing, no disease, no "difficult" person, nothing is too big for God to handle....but...almost always, it's too big for us to handle...I just don't know how anyone gets through a single day with Him. I, too, am looking forward to seeing Dr. Phil's special intervention tomorrow night (I just wish it was with my husband!) He does truly want to quit but his resolve is usually very short lived when the "craving" hits. He's a binge drinker & is very ugly (for lack of a better word) when he drinks. He's only 38 & is having lots of physical problems that he dismisses that I know are a direct result of his drinking. I will pray for you (& all the others of us) who are suffering this terrible disease's effects. Keep the faith....
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