Replies to '*Dr. Phil Prime Time Special: Escaping Addiction, Part 2'

I am the wife of a man addicted to alcohol and cigarettes.  He must have a cigarette in his hand or mouth at all times and an open beer hidden not far away.  He says he wants to quit but that it is a habit.  He has been detoxited once due to illness and once with the help of a doctor giving him meds to kill the shakes.  It did not work because he started again saying he enjoys the taste.  On the weekend the first thing I hear is the popping of a beer can in the morning and usually by noon he is out for the rest of the day.  On weekdays as soon as he gets off work he starts drinking.  He comes home long enough to check in and is then off on what he calls a side job (either a quick way to buy a six pack or to a friends house for free beer).  This is destroying the family especially my daughter age 12.  She has never had a birthday party because our place is to small but mainly because she is afraid of her father embarrassing her.  He has done this several times in front of her best friend.  She doesn't want any of her other friends to see his behavior.    

I am a teachers aide and do not make enough money by myself to leave him.  I am going back to college to get my BA in computers to try and become a computer teacher so that we can move out but I am 2yrs. from that.    

I wish there was something I could do to help my husband get clean permanently before my daughter is permanently harmed.  The other night he came home so drunk he passed out in the car in the driveway.  The car was still running when I went outside to see why he had not come in.  I turned off the car and found that the car was still in gear.  Had his foot slipped off the break he would have taken out the ramp to the trailer and who knows what other damage.  We were lucky I went outside to check on him.  To ease all reading this mind I never let my daughter ride with him and I am the only one who drives her anywhere.  There were a couple times in the past he drove but his alcoholism was not as bad as it is now.  

My husband has reached the point of being sick when he does not get a beer and is sick just about every morning.  He wants my daughter and I to feel sorry for him but we can't because we are too fed up with the lies that come with alcoholism. 

I alcoholism a disease, illness, addiction, or habit?????????  How do I help him overcome this or is there no hope and my daughter and I should move on??????? 

I am the wife of a man addicted to alcohol and cigarettes.  He must have a cigarette in his hand or mouth at all times and an open beer hidden not far away.  He says he wants to quit but that it is a habit.  He has been detoxited once due to illness and once with the help of a doctor giving him meds to kill the shakes.  It did not work because he started again saying he enjoys the taste.  On the weekend the first thing I hear is the popping of a beer can in the morning and usually by noon he is out for the rest of the day.  On weekdays as soon as he gets off work he starts drinking.  He comes home long enough to check in and is then off on what he calls a side job (either a quick way to buy a six pack or to a friends house for free beer).  This is destroying the family especially my daughter age 12.  She has never had a birthday party because our place is to small but mainly because she is afraid of her father embarrassing her.  He has done this several times in front of her best friend.  She doesn't want any of her other friends to see his behavior.    

I am a teachers aide and do not make enough money by myself to leave him.  I am going back to college to get my BA in computers to try and become a computer teacher so that we can move out but I am 2yrs. from that.    

I wish there was something I could do to help my husband get clean permanently before my daughter is permanently harmed.  The other night he came home so drunk he passed out in the car in the driveway.  The car was still running when I went outside to see why he had not come in.  I turned off the car and found that the car was still in gear.  Had his foot slipped off the break he would have taken out the ramp to the trailer and who knows what other damage.  We were lucky I went outside to check on him.  To ease all reading this mind I never let my daughter ride with him and I am the only one who drives her anywhere.  There were a couple times in the past he drove but his alcoholism was not as bad as it is now.  

My husband has reached the point of being sick when he does not get a beer and is sick just about every morning.  He wants my daughter and I to feel sorry for him but we can't because we are too fed up with the lies that come with alcoholism. 

I alcoholism a disease, illness, addiction, or habit?????????  How do I help him overcome this or is there no hope and my daughter and I should move on??????? 

I am the wife of a man addicted to alcohol and cigarettes.  He must have a cigarette in his hand or mouth at all times and an open beer hidden not far away.  He says he wants to quit but that it is a habit.  He has been detoxited once due to illness and once with the help of a doctor giving him meds to kill the shakes.  It did not work because he started again saying he enjoys the taste.  On the weekend the first thing I hear is the popping of a beer can in the morning and usually by noon he is out for the rest of the day.  On weekdays as soon as he gets off work he starts drinking.  He comes home long enough to check in and is then off on what he calls a side job (either a quick way to buy a six pack or to a friends house for free beer).  This is destroying the family especially my daughter age 12.  She has never had a birthday party because our place is to small but mainly because she is afraid of her father embarrassing her.  He has done this several times in front of her best friend.  She doesn't want any of her other friends to see his behavior.    

I am a teachers aide and do not make enough money by myself to leave him.  I am going back to college to get my BA in computers to try and become a computer teacher so that we can move out but I am 2yrs. from that.    

I wish there was something I could do to help my husband get clean permanently before my daughter is permanently harmed.  The other night he came home so drunk he passed out in the car in the driveway.  The car was still running when I went outside to see why he had not come in.  I turned off the car and found that the car was still in gear.  Had his foot slipped off the break he would have taken out the ramp to the trailer and who knows what other damage.  We were lucky I went outside to check on him.  To ease all reading this mind I never let my daughter ride with him and I am the only one who drives her anywhere.  There were a couple times in the past he drove but his alcoholism was not as bad as it is now.  

My husband has reached the point of being sick when he does not get a beer and is sick just about every morning.  He wants my daughter and I to feel sorry for him but we can't because we are too fed up with the lies that come with alcoholism. 

I alcoholism a disease, illness, addiction, or habit?????????  How do I help him overcome this or is there no hope and my daughter and I should move on???????