Quote From: ma1becaI was molested by my step-father and once by an uncle. When I confronted my stepfather he shrugged it off. What was the worst hurt was when I finally told my mother, she replied "Don't feel bad it happens to a lot of girls your age."
Because of this incest from the time I was maybe 5 or 6 to the age of 16, I have not had a normal sexual relationship with any male. I like to be held and cuddled and loved but intercourse is difficult for me still.
I have begun to have a warmer relationship with my mother but it is still strained on my part. I have never spoken of the incest with her since I first told her. I can't bring myself to do it and see no reason to make her uncomfortable at the age of 76.
I couldn't help but wonder why you would worry about "making your mom uncomfortable" if you talked to her now again about being molested as a child. She needs to know how the molestation affected your life. This is why these sorts of crimes are able to be kept secret for decades, "so nobody rocks the boat." We all have to be truthful and if that hurts them, so be it. Why did your mom not protect you?
Please read: "Toxic Parents" by Dr. Susan Forward, and "People of the Lie" by M. Scott Peck. Both books give lots of insight into many parent/child issues and may be helpful to you as they have been for me.
Best wishes......
