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May 24, 2006, 5:43 am PDT
 Quote From: yvonne3 Dear Michael, I was abandoned by my mother at the age of 18 months. I am now 45. I had a rough life growing up. I was raised by a dysfunctional Aunt and Uncle that raised me out of an family obligation. Michael I did not even have a bed to sleep in. I slept on the floor. I did not know affection or unconditional love. I was a virtual Cinderella Story. . .I married a very prominet wealthy man and had two beautiful children, but I did not believe I deserved happiness. I divorced after seven years of marriage. My marriage lacked affection. I can honestly say I am an excellent mother. I have struggled with my life and now at 45 feel like it is finally coming together. I struggle every day with the pain of my life, but it no longer consumes me. I was for years a shut in and went through my life savings. I fight every day to put one foot in front of the other and have been successful now since October. . .I now have my Real Estate License and am very proud to say I am admired by my peers and many of them want to be me. . .the me they get to see. . .they do not know my pain. . .mother's day is especially hard for me. . .I am facing my demons and have begun to realize I am lovable and hope to someday find the person that loves me for exactly who I am. I no longer hide my past. . .I no longer put on pretenses that I am more than I am. . .I do have issues with abandonment, but I know how to verbally express them. I know how you feel. I know how you hurt. You are not alone. There are many of us out here. I need counseling myself and on many occassions have thought about calling Dr. Phil to help me deal with the Anger, the Hurt and the Loss. . .I have taken wholeness and healing classes at my Church. . .I have read all of Dr. Phil's books. . .I have found some peace in Dr. Phil's wisdom. I lost weight because of Dr. Phil. I think you are in good hands with Dr. Phil. I wish I had a one on one session with Dr. Phil, but I will be watching tomorrow to see what he tells you. . .I will most likely have a box of kleenex handy. I do not have the finances to get professional help, but I read constantly and have turned to the Church for what help they can give me. . .I have had days in the past year where I did not know where my next meal was coming from. . .Micheal there are so many of us here for you. . .if you need or want a mother. . .I have a very big heart and loving nature. . .I would be proud to be your mother. Love, Yvonne
This is a wonderful message!! I wish I had someone there for me when I was going through my bad time. My mother left me when I was 7. She left me witht he "baby sitters" and she never showed back up for me. That was 43 years ago. I still struggle with some things to this day. I never knew who my family was and why they never tried to find me. I still don't understand that part!!! I found my mother when I was about 20 years old. We did have a wonderful relationship and I got a few questions answered. I realized that I was "better off" with the baby sitters after I found her and we talked, But what saddens me is that I didn't get to know any of my people. She had previously taken me from them when I was about 5. But some good news is....I was re-united with my step-father 9 years ago. She left him and took me at age 5 and I never saw him again. My mother is deceased now, so sometimes I feel all alone again. My growing up years were very very painful for me.....I know I am rambling on. Once again I thank you for posting your message. You seem like such a wonderful person. If it had not been for God showing me the "whole picture" I don't know how in the world I would have gotten past this. I am married and have two wonderful grown daughters and a precious grandson!!!! For that I am thankful...and everyday I tell myself if I had stayed with my mother then I would never have met my husband and had such a precious family. God has been so wonderful to me. Plus, let me add....the folks that "kept" me......were so loving and good to me. They were strict and would not let me out of their site, I guess because of my mother trying to snatch me up or something. I don't know. Well, I rambled on so much. Thank you once again, and God Bless you Always. Linda |
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