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May 23, 2006, 4:32 am PDT
 Quote From: mtnt799 i to know how he feels my mom left us us at any early age and my dad was a drunk who was murdered at the age of 39. my mom was a alcoholic as well and gave us up. identical twin daughers and to brothers. we were so young,12, 10 and 4. she had no clarity and gave us up to a child molester. who for the next ten to 13 years made our lives hell. I was one of the twins and was seperated from my sister for over seven years, while i did not have to endure the sexual abuse by him as my brothers did i did however had to endure the physical and emotional abuse. My sister was kicked out out the house at age 13 and I was not allowed to speak to her until I was 21 years of age. Not being allwoed to speak to her and being beat almost every day and told it is your fault ways pretty hard on a kid. along with having to keep the secret of what was happening to your brothers. seven years is a long time to be seperated for your twin sister. a little of 25 years has passed now and the four of us are closer then ever, we have in some ways worked through it we almost never speak about it,it is still sometimes just to painfull, but we are all together. I was fortunate as a child; even tho I lost my mother when I was 13 to death-she left us after open heart surgery. Myself & 3 older siblings were my mom's whole world and she was the best mother in the world; but I still felt anger and resentment to a woman who had no control over leaving us!!! After my brother in law sexually abused me; and my sister did not believe me; I moved in with my moms best friends and they finished raising me; I do not know WHAT I would have done without them. My life would have been over, so it's not like I was dumped off somewhere-but there was SO MUCH fighting in my family, (sister & step father) over who was going to keep me because I had death benefits coming in from my mother. And, that is all they wanted was the monthly check, never cared about me!! But, I must admit-I do agree with the one letter that was sent in; when the mother left the children were dropped off at this one place; where the children WERE safe-it's better than the mother beating them or abusing them in God knows what other ways!! Not saying what she did was right, but maybe for reasons none of us know she felt she had no other way. And, as for the person that was seperated from her twin, and other siblings until she was 21-what about the age of 18?? That seems a bit strange; any state the age that you can legally go on your own is 18 so why did you wait until 21?? And, the other one that was left with her grandma with 4 other siblings-how were you left to raise them when you were with your grandma?? I couldn't understand that one either. I feel so sorry for all of you being abandoned; but I don't understand some of these stories. Please do not be mad at me-but it's just hard for me. I also came from a home where my father was an alcoholic; and before my mom died my parents were astranged and my father wanted nothing to do with me; so I really do understand alot more than most of you realize. Again, my heart goes out to all of you!! |
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August 5, 2006, 2:52 pm PDT
Quote From: mtnt799 i to know how he feels my mom left us us at any early age and my dad was a drunk who was murdered at the age of 39. my mom was a alcoholic as well and gave us up. identical twin daughers and to brothers. we were so young,12, 10 and 4. she had no clarity and gave us up to a child molester. who for the next ten to 13 years made our lives hell. I was one of the twins and was seperated from my sister for over seven years, while i did not have to endure the sexual abuse by him as my brothers did i did however had to endure the physical and emotional abuse. My sister was kicked out out the house at age 13 and I was not allowed to speak to her until I was 21 years of age. Not being allwoed to speak to her and being beat almost every day and told it is your fault ways pretty hard on a kid. along with having to keep the secret of what was happening to your brothers. seven years is a long time to be seperated for your twin sister. a little of 25 years has passed now and the four of us are closer then ever, we have in some ways worked through it we almost never speak about it,it is still sometimes just to painfull, but we are all together. You know My sisters and brother would not talk about anything that happened in our family either. We got real close and then one day I the oldest who had to take care of all of them had broken down with severe anxiety fear and eating disorders decided to get help and did and the family would still not talk about it but it is heathly to talk about it because you break the cycle stopping those thoughts that may be inside of you I waited so long to do that. I received the help I needed and the medication and praise God I was able to put the man in jail who was molesting me all those years but now I am alone and happy with my husband children and grandchildren if that is what it took to stop the cycle then that is OK. My mother just passed away in May 2006 and the family did not tell me but you know that is OK because I know they need help just like I did and some day they will have no choice by to get it because life has a way of making you do that you can only hold it in for so long and something has to give. God Bless all of you |
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