Quote From: beaushell The whole porn thing is a really big problem. I have had two partners in the last 3 years who have been into this the first one would spend hours on his computer and would be "too tired" to make love to me. He wanted me to have sex with another woman with him. This relationship destroyed my self esteem. The second relationship was better but after 18 months he came to me one night and said that the thought he may need counselling because he had a 'morbid fascination' with porn. I asked him if he had been looking at it on the net on my computer and he said yes but he didn't touch himself. I was cut, mainly because I can't understand why he needs porn when we had a perfectly good sex life. It makes me feel like I am not enough for him. He knows how I feel about this but I remained calm thanked him for being honest and asked him if by "morbid fascination' was it something that he wanted to change. He eventually admitted that he didn't really have a problem with it and couldn't understand why I did and that he felt that it was something that he had to give up because he was with me. I told him that I would not be responsible for making him give up something that he wanted in order to be with me because it would just cause resentment. I also told him that I have a problem with it and by allowing him to do this in order to make him happy would just make me angry and resentful so we called it quits. Maybe there is girls out there that are happy to have their partners watching porn and hopefully he finds one. Its just not me.
Rule #1 Just about all men masturbate - would this be a problem for you if they did so in marriage/a relationship? - because they ALL do do it.
Rule #2: A LOT of men (a good proportion - i'd say maybe 80% do PORN) - is this a problem for you in marriage/relationship?
If these are going to be issues for you (as they are with a lot of women) good luck finding a man who does neither (they DON"T EXIST). Men will be men. THat's the way it is.
