Quote From: bkoshyRule #1 Just about all men masturbate - would this be a problem for you if they did so in marriage/a relationship? - because they ALL do do it.
Rule #2: A LOT of men (a good proportion - i'd say maybe 80% do PORN) - is this a problem for you in marriage/relationship?
If these are going to be issues for you (as they are with a lot of women) good luck finding a man who does neither (they DON"T EXIST). Men will be men. THat's the way it is.
I don't have a problem with men masturbating, I do it myself. I even find it very helpful if I am not in the mood one night and he is and I will watch him masturbate and most times it will turn me on enough to join in. He found this really exciting as well that I felt this way. I don't think I would have a problem if I was in an established trusting relationship and we decided to watch a porn flick together to spice things up a bit. It's more a problem when it becomes something that they want to hide, exclude you from, or worst still do instead of making love to you. It also becomes a problem when they say they are not interested in the whole thing and you then find out that they have lied and are hiding it from you. Why can't they be honest and up front? And more importantly where is the discussion, understanding and compromise? And if this can't be reached then why stay in an unhappy relationship (either of you).
