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Maybe instead of focusing on all the negative, maybe start focusing on the positive things about your husband. True love can be "real" and for "sure" if you allow it to. Life itself is whatever you make of it. No one is perfect and we all have our flaws but to dwell on the negative is nothing but a waste of time in my opinion, I would much whether dwell on the positive and be happy and do everything in my power to make my marriage and love stronger. It certainly takes the effort to to be happy and to stay in love with your spouse but to me it is well worth my time and energy. And really, if two people are really in love, it really doesn't take hard/depresssing effort, just enough to keep the fire burning. :) After 12 years of marriage, I can honestly say that I am still in love with my husband and even though we have our off moments there is never a doubt in my mind that he is my true and only love. We are happy and have benefitted each other in so many ways. True love is real and can last a life time and it doesn't have to be a "chore" but could be an adventure. I think when it comes to my hubby, he actually has more positive about him then he does negatives and when things doesn't feel like they should and the negative aspect of our relationship does creep up, I replace those thought with happy/positive thoughts and the whole attitude changes, not always easy but it does work and we have a great relationship.

ALL relationships have these three things:  

 

the GOOD, the BAD and the UGLY.

 

And to make your relationship stand the test of time you have to SAVOR the good, DEAL WITH the bad and WORK THROUGH the ugly (ugly being baggage).

 

If it is killing you to try and keep "all of this" inside, then I might suggest that you LET IT ALL OUT.

 

If you can't let it out in a respectful and constructive way with your partner, then go get some help in the form of counseling.

 

I also strongly encourage you to KEEP ON struggling with finding yourself because if you lose who you are, then you can't even be a partner to yourself so how can you expect to be a true partner to anyone else?

 

Q