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Replies to '08/25 Alcohol and Abuse'
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August 28, 2005, 8:12 am PDT
 Quote From: lilac1999 I have read SOME of the messages, I don't blame the woman for being upset dealing with a raging alcoholic. But... not to that extent! I am living with an alcoholic who - luckily is not as bad as Steve, although that doesn't really matter - I have felt the same way as Sheila, I would have liked to hit him at some point. But I know that wouldn't help. I know people would think that I am terrible but it is not easy dealing with that, even though alcoholism is a "disease" it still isn't easy. I know people think that Sheila is lieing about not remembering beating Steve but look what her father did to her, it has to have some psychological affect on her. I don't know what I would do in her shoes but did anyone see that the husband looked like he was trying to hurt her when she kicked him? Not that she should have beat him, especially when he was on the floor after drinking sooooo much, I didn't agree with that, at all!! I go to Al-anon and it has been tough to think of alcoholism as a disease; but if someone has cancer or diabetes and doesn't get help, and we live with them; it has an affect on us too. I do feel bad for the kids and agree that they would be better off out of the home, I am so glad that Dr. Phil told them to separate, and you saw how she was upset - she suffers from the affects of alcoholism too - being married to him, it's not easy! I just wanted to tell my feelings too. Hi there hope i got your name right?As for dealing with an alcoholic yes it must be hard.But!Sheila married him and i'm sure Steve probably had this problem before they married.If not welll Sheila would be enough to send anyone over the edge.Hell i'd drink to just not to feel the physical pain she puts that man through.What about the kids ?its the kids that suffer from this.I could care less about them to jackasses.Sheila is a nurse well where is her compasssion? did she skip that class or what?How she ever got to be a nurse is what bugs me.You almost have to jump through hoops here in order to even be accepted into nursing and you do go through a pyhclogical evaluation also,so how did the mental board miss her?If she was abused so bad how did the state board miss that?Are they that stupid?It appears so.As for her being abused don't you think she would want to get help before she brought thoses kids into this world?She apparently didn't see the kids watching her beat their father but at the same time turns around and says the house is to small to avoid him .well duh!go for a walk for heaven sakes.Or go for a ride or something but she couldn't do that because she has an anger issue and i believe she needs pyhiatric help for both anger&abuse if she was indeed abused.She thought for sure Dr.Phil was going to be in her corner but was she wrong she should be in a corner in a cell ! She would have ended up there if she would have kept beating him.The reason i use past tense is supposely her &Steve have parted and the kids are with her.Well pity help those kids if they get on her bad side with no Steve there to beat on who is next ?the kids.One of the neibours i believe have come to Sheila's defense and said Sheila loves those kids and would neever abuse them, well duh!she was abusing them not pyhsically but mentally.They both need some seriuos help.And hopefully the kids might grow up knowing alcohol and abuse don't mix well. |
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October 1, 2005, 10:38 pm PDT
Quote From: lilac1999 I have read SOME of the messages, I don't blame the woman for being upset dealing with a raging alcoholic. But... not to that extent! I am living with an alcoholic who - luckily is not as bad as Steve, although that doesn't really matter - I have felt the same way as Sheila, I would have liked to hit him at some point. But I know that wouldn't help. I know people would think that I am terrible but it is not easy dealing with that, even though alcoholism is a "disease" it still isn't easy. I know people think that Sheila is lieing about not remembering beating Steve but look what her father did to her, it has to have some psychological affect on her. I don't know what I would do in her shoes but did anyone see that the husband looked like he was trying to hurt her when she kicked him? Not that she should have beat him, especially when he was on the floor after drinking sooooo much, I didn't agree with that, at all!! I go to Al-anon and it has been tough to think of alcoholism as a disease; but if someone has cancer or diabetes and doesn't get help, and we live with them; it has an affect on us too. I do feel bad for the kids and agree that they would be better off out of the home, I am so glad that Dr. Phil told them to separate, and you saw how she was upset - she suffers from the affects of alcoholism too - being married to him, it's not easy! I just wanted to tell my feelings too. I too live with an alcoholic. He isn't as bad as Steve either, but I understand Shelia's rage, although violence is never a solution. Living with an alcoholic does effect everyone around them. My husband is going through counseling, thank God, and is doing well with not drinking. My best friend grew up with an alcoholic mother--probably worse than Steve--and is now following in her footsteps. It's so sad to watch her. She won't listen to anyone and is really discreet about how much she actually drinks. It's hard to be the sober one and have promises broken, things forgotten because they were drunk, phyically and/or emotionally abused. I never thought I'd end up with someone who's an addict. Does going to Alanon help? I've been told that I should really go. |
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