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May 26, 2006, 11:57 pm PDT
Toxic Family Relationships
Quote From: mmcturk What a sad story. No one on the message boards could confidently advise you what is happening health wise to your Mother. Her life seems very sad at the moment though. My own Mother died a number of years ago and she had a number of strokes which brought on dementia we believe. She lived with my sister and her family and she became so ill that there was no choice in the end and she had to go into a nursing home to be cared for. My sister always told me what was happening and I was involved in any decisions. May I suggest that for your own peace of mind you forget anything to do with wills and who is entitled to what. The most important thing is you re-establishing a relationship with your Mum while you have her still with you. Whatever you think maybe going on with your sister isn't the most important thing at the moment. You must try to get on with her and if possible with your sister and you will be able to see if there are big problems that might need a professional to resolve. But please try to get on with your Mum because you love her and put out of your mind anything to do with wills and who is entitled to what. Your sister may appreciate some help with looking after your Mum or just someone to listen to her problems.
Regards
Emotionally I can not handle her when she is so verbally vicious. When she was really nice to me those few times we all had a really great time and visit, went on drives and out to eat. But I refuse to be around her if she's going to yell at me and call me a liar (when its not true) and accuse me of things. I just can't handle that kind of verbal abuse. I grew up with it. Now I'm married and I have a really nice peaceful life. But if I am around that kind of abuse I slip into depression and my own marriage suffers for it. If it is demenia I hope there are some meds that she can take to control the vicious nature. When she is like that she clearly does not want to be around me, so I don't see a reason to subject myself to that kind of abuse when I am so hyper sensitive to it. It isn't about the will or inheritence. I thought she might be getting abused and I tried to help her by getting to talk to her alone, but she lashed out at me.
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