Replies to 'Ready for Marriage?'

Thank you for the reply.  I'm sorry I didn't get your name, but your advice, if you would call it that was taken with a grain of salt.  Thanks for the insult, but I'm not a child.  How dare you judge the mental capacity of my boyfriend when you know nothing about him.  We are both adults here and can make adult decisions.  The fact that I have a few questions pending my relationship with him doesn't make me any different than anyone else.  To answer your question, he first married at age 19 and admitted to me that it was an impulsive move and a mistake.  He was married for 4 years and the relationship ended because he was tired of watching her children while she would go out with friends or to the bar.  She also became a habitual heroin addict and ended up abandoning her children.  Sadly to say, she passed from a self-inflicted shot gun wound to the head.  His second wife, of 5 or so years, decided to have an affair.  He revealed to me that a divorce had never even crossed his mind because he loved her so much, but the pain of the infidelity and the lies and trust issues ultimately ended the marriage.  I know that he will not be ready to marry again for a while and that's okay, because I love this man and I can wait however long it takes.  Now, you are right about one thing..  He does have 15 years of life experience on me, but just how immature do you think I am?  Emotionally, we are at the same level.  Mentally, we are in-tuned with one another.  I have endured much more than the average 22-year-old women has.  I also think differently that the average 22-year-old women does.  So how mentally capable do you think I may be? Whatever you think is your own opinion, and I respect that, but you act like you know me and the truth of it is that you really don't.  One thing I love about him is that he CAN be immature and live a little.  He has a great sense of humor and we are definitely on the same page when it comes down to it.  What's funny is that we do have our inner-child moments together and those are the best.  Not like it matters, but just to let you know I was the one that went after him.  And I didn't stop until I got him =)  Before he and I even started dating I told my dad that I was going to be with this man.  I just knew it.  Another thing is that he doesn't even speak to his ex-wife except for the occasional phone call about his step children.  I don't even think she knows about me which honestly doesn't matter.  They don't get into personal conversation with one another, so that is that.  I have got to say, your whole demeanor is depressing and pessimistic.  I hope that in time you will learn to be less judge mental and more open about people's views and feelings on things. Just maybe you might try to wise up a little bit.  We all have things to learn.  Enjoy your day =) 

~Joanna