Replies to '05/30 Pretty/Ugly'

After reading about the subject matter it just infuriated me about the mother treating one child different than the other due to her looks.  I am a grown woman who still is dealing with this "ugly" issue.  Just to add to the statement, my last name was no winner by a long shot which had kids at school scoffing about that not much less than my looks.  When I was growing up I didn't get support from my parents as they didn't think much of me anyways - so there goes a major source of support.  Once I entered the workforce, I tried with all my might to make something of myself and to make a long story short just as I was about to enter Management (after long, long hours) I was diagnosed with Spastic Dysphonia (unable to speak or can only whisper at most times).  This is now a disability which has caused me to lose my job.  Sometimes you feel you just can't win for losing.  I have been to counselling where my doctor told me I have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder where she worked with me about appearance and the results of my childhood experiences.  Yes, being an adult I am in control and have the ability to make the choices about what I think about myself........still very difficult.  My point is that parents must learn to love their children unconditionally and appearance shouldn't matter.  I feel for these kids when they older as if they don't start to get help and proper direction planted in their thinking....their lives later on will be hell.  Take it from me I've been there and it hurts.  Nobody deserves a childhood filled with negative input about appearance or abilities.  From somebody who cares.