Replies to 'Pornography'

I told y'all in my first post this last Wednesday that before I joined and posted here, I spent a few days reading over old posts.  I read so many caring, supportive posts full of good advice and some that contained hard truths.  There was only one time I got angry at what I saw posted.  A male said that part of why some men turn to porn is because of how the women look - ya know - skinny, great hair and nails, perfectly done makeup, the come hither look, fake breasts and other cosmetic surgery as needed.  That bothered me alot because over and over here I read - it isn't your (the woman's) fault and has nothing to do with how you look and then I see this post where the opposite is said.  Here is what I wanted to tell that guy: 

Not ALL men are looking for Barbie.  My husband actually very much prefers voluptuous women.  If they are under 150 lbs, he isn't really interested and in fact I have to watch the scale to make sure I keep on an amount of weight that keeps me looking how he likes me.  This doesn't mean I sacrifice my health to please him - I am almost 5'8" and size 12 - and very curvy - I am stacked and have some junk in my trunk lol.  I am athletic and very healthy and most days I eat lowfat and lowcal foods.  But if I decide to eat some pizza, then I can and not worry about it like Barbie does.  I stay active in fun ways, but don't spend 3 hours a day at the gym trying to have a six-pack.  In fact my hubby would hate it if my body got all hard and ropy.  He LOVES my curves and my softness.  He loves how we feel together (and so do I).  You may think he is unique - but I know for a fact he isn't.  When I discovered his porn deal, I found he belonged to many BBW groups and there are tons of other men who do also.  I had no idea how many men love rounded women.  Some even like them really really big.  So, to each his own.  Some like the Barbie look and others love softness.  I will agree with one point that was in that post though - men really do like it if you make an effort to look nice for them.  My hubby appreciates that most days when he gets home from work, I greet him at the door with hair/makeup done and a smile.  Anytime we go out I make sure I am wearing something he finds sexy.  This may sound a little too June Cleaver lol - but I love doing it for him because I know how much he appreciates it.  I know it is sometimes hard with work/kids and all the other stresses - we have 5 kids and I am a stay-at home mom, so I don't have a whole lot of spare time.  But it is important to me to look as good as I possibly can for my man.  Emphasis on the I.  I can't look like Paris Hilton and am so glad that my hubby doesn't want me to.   

I am not trying to restart an old argument.  That post just bugged me and I wanted to say something about it.  Maybe also let some of the ladies who are heavier than 120, and feeling badly about themselves because of it, know that not all men expect you to look like you did when you were 16 or to get plastic surgery to fix whatever they perceive is wrong with you.  I questioned myself and my body for a while after I found out my hubby was into porn, but I know I am attractive just the way I am - and I don't have to go under the knife or give up carbs to please men.   Neither do y'all.  :)  Roxy