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August 8, 2005, 6:24 pm PDT
 Quote From: teemarie03 pregnant and aloneWhere do I start? Right now my life is pretty messed up right now. I am 7 months pregnant and my boyfriend of 2 years has ran off to Virginia. I already have a one year old son with him and things werent great but they werent the worst. about 2 weeks ago he was helping his god parents move to Virginia, then on my sons first birthday july 09 he calls me and says he wasn't going to make it to the party. He had the nerve enough to tell me that he could've gotten a bus ticket home but he needed time to himself he was too stressed out. Boy was I hurt to the bone. I figured its your sons 1st birthday and your being so selfish by saying that you needed to get away. At a time like this? His reply was "me missing his first birthday is between me and him and I don't have to answer to anyone but him." Well that may be true to a certain extent but come on it's your sons first birthday why would you want to miss out on that? I was furious. I told him not to bother me for awhile. He calls the party to speak with his brother and tells him he on his way to Virginia Beach. Does anyone else see something wrong with that. he tells him also that he would be back later on that week. After that I didnt hear from him until the following Saturday and he calls me and tells me that he might be staying down there for awhile and that he's going to the shipyard to find work every morning. I was so hurt. I was crying hysterically I mean I loved this boy. I would do anything for him. I mean it just happened so fast. The day before he left we were doing fine we watched a movie after I got off work then he took me home we did our I love yous and kisses. He says he understands why I am so hurt but I dont see how you could do somebody like this if you love them. His main rebuttals i are I need time to myself to get my head on straight. you dont know what is going oon in someones head or what people are thinking, I am too stressed out. Sometimes you have think about yourself no matter who it hurts or you'll never be happy. I know it's not all about me but I am crushed I need my boyfriend right now to get through this pregnancy to hug me kiss me talk to me but he says he to stressed out and he needs to get his life togather and start thinking more about himself. I feel like I am worthless. I cry every night . I cant believe he just left me like he did. He was my first for everything. This was even a big blow to his family. If you knew Justin you thought he would always be there for his kids if not his girlfriend. I feel embarassed when someone asks me how we're doing or where he's at. He called me yesterday to ask about our son the convo was dry and forced. he began telling how he found a job and that he even started going to church. It looks like to me he's not coming back and that hurts more than anything. when he talks i can truly hear happiness in his voice. I want to be happy for him but I am not happy with how he left me. I feel burdened and stressed. I am begining to blame him for my anger, sadness, and depression. i feel like his happiness costed me what little happiness i had. at times I hate his guts at other times i miss him and I still love him. I cry all the time I need help. does anyone have any advice.
thanks Teena marie Columbus Ohio WHAT A JERK HE MAY BE A NICE GUY.AND I MEAN I'M ALL FOR FINDING YOUR SELF AND SPENDING SOME TIME ALONE I OFTEN DO THAT BUT TO RUN OFF AND LEAVE HIS GIRLFRIEND 7 MONTHS PREGNANT AND MISS HIS SONS FIRST BIRTHDAY MAKES ME BELIEVE THAT YOU NEED TO FORGET ABOUT HIM. UNLESS HE DECIDES TO GROW UP AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE FAMILY HE CREATED AND THEN LEFT. BUT UNTIL THEN I WOULD NOT EVEN CONSIDER TAKEING HIM BACK ANY ONE THAT IS THAT CARELESS WITH HIS LIFE AND SOMEONE ELSES IS NOT THE KIND OF PERSON YOU NEED TO EXSPOSE YOUR CHILDREN TO I KNOW YOU LOVE HIM AND WANT MORE THAN ANYTHING FOR IT TO WORK OUT BUT IN LESS HE MAKES AN EFFORT TO MAKE A MENDS THEN YOUR BETTER OFF ALONE I AM SO SORRY YOU AND YOUR SON AND YOUR UNBORN BABY HAVE TO GO THOUGH THIS I HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT FOR THE BEST FOR YOU! KAYLEE IF YOU EVER NEED ANYTHING OR JUST NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE MY E-MAIL ADRESS IS (KAYLEE_M_1985@YAHOO.COM) TRUST ME I'M GOING THROUGH SOMETHING SIMILUR AND I WOULD LOVE TO TALK TO YOU |
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November 22, 2005, 2:24 pm PST
Quote From: teemarie03 pregnant and aloneWhere do I start? Right now my life is pretty messed up right now. I am 7 months pregnant and my boyfriend of 2 years has ran off to Virginia. I already have a one year old son with him and things werent great but they werent the worst. about 2 weeks ago he was helping his god parents move to Virginia, then on my sons first birthday july 09 he calls me and says he wasn't going to make it to the party. He had the nerve enough to tell me that he could've gotten a bus ticket home but he needed time to himself he was too stressed out. Boy was I hurt to the bone. I figured its your sons 1st birthday and your being so selfish by saying that you needed to get away. At a time like this? His reply was "me missing his first birthday is between me and him and I don't have to answer to anyone but him." Well that may be true to a certain extent but come on it's your sons first birthday why would you want to miss out on that? I was furious. I told him not to bother me for awhile. He calls the party to speak with his brother and tells him he on his way to Virginia Beach. Does anyone else see something wrong with that. he tells him also that he would be back later on that week. After that I didnt hear from him until the following Saturday and he calls me and tells me that he might be staying down there for awhile and that he's going to the shipyard to find work every morning. I was so hurt. I was crying hysterically I mean I loved this boy. I would do anything for him. I mean it just happened so fast. The day before he left we were doing fine we watched a movie after I got off work then he took me home we did our I love yous and kisses. He says he understands why I am so hurt but I dont see how you could do somebody like this if you love them. His main rebuttals i are I need time to myself to get my head on straight. you dont know what is going oon in someones head or what people are thinking, I am too stressed out. Sometimes you have think about yourself no matter who it hurts or you'll never be happy. I know it's not all about me but I am crushed I need my boyfriend right now to get through this pregnancy to hug me kiss me talk to me but he says he to stressed out and he needs to get his life togather and start thinking more about himself. I feel like I am worthless. I cry every night . I cant believe he just left me like he did. He was my first for everything. This was even a big blow to his family. If you knew Justin you thought he would always be there for his kids if not his girlfriend. I feel embarassed when someone asks me how we're doing or where he's at. He called me yesterday to ask about our son the convo was dry and forced. he began telling how he found a job and that he even started going to church. It looks like to me he's not coming back and that hurts more than anything. when he talks i can truly hear happiness in his voice. I want to be happy for him but I am not happy with how he left me. I feel burdened and stressed. I am begining to blame him for my anger, sadness, and depression. i feel like his happiness costed me what little happiness i had. at times I hate his guts at other times i miss him and I still love him. I cry all the time I need help. does anyone have any advice.
thanks Teena marie Columbus Ohio hi teena,
Im not sure whether things have gotten better for you but after a very stressful relationship with my husband he has left and I am 6 months pregnant, How did things end up with you, how did you handle all the stress, do you have any hints of advice at this time.
Hope things got better.
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April 25, 2006, 7:06 am PDT
Quote From: teemarie03 pregnant and aloneWhere do I start? Right now my life is pretty messed up right now. I am 7 months pregnant and my boyfriend of 2 years has ran off to Virginia. I already have a one year old son with him and things werent great but they werent the worst. about 2 weeks ago he was helping his god parents move to Virginia, then on my sons first birthday july 09 he calls me and says he wasn't going to make it to the party. He had the nerve enough to tell me that he could've gotten a bus ticket home but he needed time to himself he was too stressed out. Boy was I hurt to the bone. I figured its your sons 1st birthday and your being so selfish by saying that you needed to get away. At a time like this? His reply was "me missing his first birthday is between me and him and I don't have to answer to anyone but him." Well that may be true to a certain extent but come on it's your sons first birthday why would you want to miss out on that? I was furious. I told him not to bother me for awhile. He calls the party to speak with his brother and tells him he on his way to Virginia Beach. Does anyone else see something wrong with that. he tells him also that he would be back later on that week. After that I didnt hear from him until the following Saturday and he calls me and tells me that he might be staying down there for awhile and that he's going to the shipyard to find work every morning. I was so hurt. I was crying hysterically I mean I loved this boy. I would do anything for him. I mean it just happened so fast. The day before he left we were doing fine we watched a movie after I got off work then he took me home we did our I love yous and kisses. He says he understands why I am so hurt but I dont see how you could do somebody like this if you love them. His main rebuttals i are I need time to myself to get my head on straight. you dont know what is going oon in someones head or what people are thinking, I am too stressed out. Sometimes you have think about yourself no matter who it hurts or you'll never be happy. I know it's not all about me but I am crushed I need my boyfriend right now to get through this pregnancy to hug me kiss me talk to me but he says he to stressed out and he needs to get his life togather and start thinking more about himself. I feel like I am worthless. I cry every night . I cant believe he just left me like he did. He was my first for everything. This was even a big blow to his family. If you knew Justin you thought he would always be there for his kids if not his girlfriend. I feel embarassed when someone asks me how we're doing or where he's at. He called me yesterday to ask about our son the convo was dry and forced. he began telling how he found a job and that he even started going to church. It looks like to me he's not coming back and that hurts more than anything. when he talks i can truly hear happiness in his voice. I want to be happy for him but I am not happy with how he left me. I feel burdened and stressed. I am begining to blame him for my anger, sadness, and depression. i feel like his happiness costed me what little happiness i had. at times I hate his guts at other times i miss him and I still love him. I cry all the time I need help. does anyone have any advice.
thanks Teena marie Columbus Ohio Hello, I was just at Va Beach last weekend. Anyway, you need to take care of the your son and your unborn child and do not worry about what he is doing. You have two kids to think about. He is just a typical man that is running away. He may be trying to get himself together to bring you and the kids where he is in Va. I am not the type to say leave him alone and all this. You need to do what you want to do. I know you love him and I have been in the same situation. In a situation like that, I done something to keep my mind occupied from not thinking about him. Good Luck and god bless. |
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June 29, 2006, 2:04 pm PDT
Quote From: teemarie03 pregnant and aloneWhere do I start? Right now my life is pretty messed up right now. I am 7 months pregnant and my boyfriend of 2 years has ran off to Virginia. I already have a one year old son with him and things werent great but they werent the worst. about 2 weeks ago he was helping his god parents move to Virginia, then on my sons first birthday july 09 he calls me and says he wasn't going to make it to the party. He had the nerve enough to tell me that he could've gotten a bus ticket home but he needed time to himself he was too stressed out. Boy was I hurt to the bone. I figured its your sons 1st birthday and your being so selfish by saying that you needed to get away. At a time like this? His reply was "me missing his first birthday is between me and him and I don't have to answer to anyone but him." Well that may be true to a certain extent but come on it's your sons first birthday why would you want to miss out on that? I was furious. I told him not to bother me for awhile. He calls the party to speak with his brother and tells him he on his way to Virginia Beach. Does anyone else see something wrong with that. he tells him also that he would be back later on that week. After that I didnt hear from him until the following Saturday and he calls me and tells me that he might be staying down there for awhile and that he's going to the shipyard to find work every morning. I was so hurt. I was crying hysterically I mean I loved this boy. I would do anything for him. I mean it just happened so fast. The day before he left we were doing fine we watched a movie after I got off work then he took me home we did our I love yous and kisses. He says he understands why I am so hurt but I dont see how you could do somebody like this if you love them. His main rebuttals i are I need time to myself to get my head on straight. you dont know what is going oon in someones head or what people are thinking, I am too stressed out. Sometimes you have think about yourself no matter who it hurts or you'll never be happy. I know it's not all about me but I am crushed I need my boyfriend right now to get through this pregnancy to hug me kiss me talk to me but he says he to stressed out and he needs to get his life togather and start thinking more about himself. I feel like I am worthless. I cry every night . I cant believe he just left me like he did. He was my first for everything. This was even a big blow to his family. If you knew Justin you thought he would always be there for his kids if not his girlfriend. I feel embarassed when someone asks me how we're doing or where he's at. He called me yesterday to ask about our son the convo was dry and forced. he began telling how he found a job and that he even started going to church. It looks like to me he's not coming back and that hurts more than anything. when he talks i can truly hear happiness in his voice. I want to be happy for him but I am not happy with how he left me. I feel burdened and stressed. I am begining to blame him for my anger, sadness, and depression. i feel like his happiness costed me what little happiness i had. at times I hate his guts at other times i miss him and I still love him. I cry all the time I need help. does anyone have any advice.
thanks Teena marie Columbus Ohio Hello Teena Marie, I really feel for you. I am have had similar feelings as you, although my situation is much different, but I am feeling better now that some time has passed. I won't bore you with my story, but if interested it's posted under my profile. So I have felt rejected, betrayed, heart broken, insulted, weak, vunerable, crushed, need I say more? I cried for hours for about a month everynight, would dream about the guy who hurt me and wake up crying. I couldn't wait to get home from work so I could cry and let all the built up sadness out that I had held in all day. I had just got out of an abusive relationship and been "friends with Benefits" with a guy who I had known for at least 2 years after I left my abusive EX. This guy Ron, was good support for the two weeks we hung out and he helped bring my spirits up after being made feel like dirt for 10 years with Ralph(I'm 30). Then Ron told me we couldn't be friends for awhile because my ex was giving him a hard time, but it's been over 6 weeks and I haven't heard from him since. At first I didn't think I could be OK without Ron. All the good things he did and said to me felt like a joke because he changed his mind so fast about me. I felt worthless and hopless and angry.
Some days were better than others, but then when I just thought I was OK I would slip again and want to be with Ron and feel so rejected by him. The point is--- Us ladies have to learn to take care of ourselves, mind body, sex, emotions ect. I have to go, but I will continue later today, June 29, take care, I will pray for you! |
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June 29, 2006, 3:26 pm PDT
Quote From: teemarie03 pregnant and aloneWhere do I start? Right now my life is pretty messed up right now. I am 7 months pregnant and my boyfriend of 2 years has ran off to Virginia. I already have a one year old son with him and things werent great but they werent the worst. about 2 weeks ago he was helping his god parents move to Virginia, then on my sons first birthday july 09 he calls me and says he wasn't going to make it to the party. He had the nerve enough to tell me that he could've gotten a bus ticket home but he needed time to himself he was too stressed out. Boy was I hurt to the bone. I figured its your sons 1st birthday and your being so selfish by saying that you needed to get away. At a time like this? His reply was "me missing his first birthday is between me and him and I don't have to answer to anyone but him." Well that may be true to a certain extent but come on it's your sons first birthday why would you want to miss out on that? I was furious. I told him not to bother me for awhile. He calls the party to speak with his brother and tells him he on his way to Virginia Beach. Does anyone else see something wrong with that. he tells him also that he would be back later on that week. After that I didnt hear from him until the following Saturday and he calls me and tells me that he might be staying down there for awhile and that he's going to the shipyard to find work every morning. I was so hurt. I was crying hysterically I mean I loved this boy. I would do anything for him. I mean it just happened so fast. The day before he left we were doing fine we watched a movie after I got off work then he took me home we did our I love yous and kisses. He says he understands why I am so hurt but I dont see how you could do somebody like this if you love them. His main rebuttals i are I need time to myself to get my head on straight. you dont know what is going oon in someones head or what people are thinking, I am too stressed out. Sometimes you have think about yourself no matter who it hurts or you'll never be happy. I know it's not all about me but I am crushed I need my boyfriend right now to get through this pregnancy to hug me kiss me talk to me but he says he to stressed out and he needs to get his life togather and start thinking more about himself. I feel like I am worthless. I cry every night . I cant believe he just left me like he did. He was my first for everything. This was even a big blow to his family. If you knew Justin you thought he would always be there for his kids if not his girlfriend. I feel embarassed when someone asks me how we're doing or where he's at. He called me yesterday to ask about our son the convo was dry and forced. he began telling how he found a job and that he even started going to church. It looks like to me he's not coming back and that hurts more than anything. when he talks i can truly hear happiness in his voice. I want to be happy for him but I am not happy with how he left me. I feel burdened and stressed. I am begining to blame him for my anger, sadness, and depression. i feel like his happiness costed me what little happiness i had. at times I hate his guts at other times i miss him and I still love him. I cry all the time I need help. does anyone have any advice.
thanks Teena marie Columbus Ohio I had to stop writing there before because it was quiting time at work, I'm home now and I had to finish. So as I was saying I felt similar to how you are feeling, I still do quite often, but thing are getting better. The advice that people gave me worked in some ways, and really I knew all of this stuff rationally, but emotionally it was totally different. My mind knew, and people told me. If he made you feel this way then he wasn't reliable anyway. If he did come back he may betray you again and the stakes could be higher. The time you spend with people who do not treat you with respect is wasting precious time from yourself, and gettting to know yourself, understand yourself clearly without the need for others approval or time.
It does sound korny, but think of it this way...What's his face comes back to you and you and go for a walk. You would have normally went down Main St, but What's his name and you walk up Maple Ave. Main was always so quite before, but the day you and What's his face(WHF) go there was someone on Main who you would have met along the way. This man on Main could have been you future husband, love, equal, who treated you better than even you have imagined. He would have loved you and you children and never hurt you as deep as WHF, but you didn't go down Main that day. Mr Wonderful left town and didn't return. You never met him, you don't miss him or really hurt over this because you were with WHF and missed your chance and you are oblivious to this knowlege.
Now don't get sad, becasuse if you believe in The LOVE OF THE Universe, God, the Life force, cupid or greek love goddessses, then you will one day meet this man another day or another time, when the time is right. But if you want to really make yourself happy, and get respect and be strong, have more stability and love, then you will decide a.s.a.p that you will not do anything that will prevent you from obtaining that love. This includes spending time with WHF and worrying about how much you miss him and need him and how much he hurts you. Spend this time in a postive way. You can do it, even practice at least a little each day, nurturing yourself. I read (Get INNER LOVER, by valerie harms, it's good on this topic, using your fantacies about people who are inappropriate or let us down, or die or runway, to heal. Dr Phils Love Smart is great too). I take bubble baths, walk, goto the gym, listen to music, doodle and journal (This really helps get stuff out too, and it's fun to go back and read what you wrote a day or a few days later. Seriously, sooner , not later and you will be able to laugh about this, even if it still hurts too, you will feel better in many ways.
Like a rainstrom and thunder comes and it down pours, you will see a rainbow and it will last longer. Even if you do see WHF more in the future, tell him how you feel, honour your feelings. I only hope I am strong enough to take my own advice! It is so much harder to do this than to write it, or it even might sound like preaching to you?) But I read your post and I was like, " I was, I am in a similar place as you are in my heart. I want someone to come back to me, say sorry and just be nice and loving and supportive to me, do the manly thing, have answers, closure, the truth, or something. "I wanted to tell you there is someone else out there feeling similar to you, and I know it is hard to function, especially with a child( I don't have, I can only imagine) and I hope you don't give up, I pray things will go better for you. I know it helped me just reading you post because I smiled and said, "That's me... I know how that feels.
Anyway, I am blabbing now, but Best Wishes! I am sure I will write updates later! |
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October 11, 2006, 9:45 pm PDT
Quote From: teemarie03 pregnant and aloneWhere do I start? Right now my life is pretty messed up right now. I am 7 months pregnant and my boyfriend of 2 years has ran off to Virginia. I already have a one year old son with him and things werent great but they werent the worst. about 2 weeks ago he was helping his god parents move to Virginia, then on my sons first birthday july 09 he calls me and says he wasn't going to make it to the party. He had the nerve enough to tell me that he could've gotten a bus ticket home but he needed time to himself he was too stressed out. Boy was I hurt to the bone. I figured its your sons 1st birthday and your being so selfish by saying that you needed to get away. At a time like this? His reply was "me missing his first birthday is between me and him and I don't have to answer to anyone but him." Well that may be true to a certain extent but come on it's your sons first birthday why would you want to miss out on that? I was furious. I told him not to bother me for awhile. He calls the party to speak with his brother and tells him he on his way to Virginia Beach. Does anyone else see something wrong with that. he tells him also that he would be back later on that week. After that I didnt hear from him until the following Saturday and he calls me and tells me that he might be staying down there for awhile and that he's going to the shipyard to find work every morning. I was so hurt. I was crying hysterically I mean I loved this boy. I would do anything for him. I mean it just happened so fast. The day before he left we were doing fine we watched a movie after I got off work then he took me home we did our I love yous and kisses. He says he understands why I am so hurt but I dont see how you could do somebody like this if you love them. His main rebuttals i are I need time to myself to get my head on straight. you dont know what is going oon in someones head or what people are thinking, I am too stressed out. Sometimes you have think about yourself no matter who it hurts or you'll never be happy. I know it's not all about me but I am crushed I need my boyfriend right now to get through this pregnancy to hug me kiss me talk to me but he says he to stressed out and he needs to get his life togather and start thinking more about himself. I feel like I am worthless. I cry every night . I cant believe he just left me like he did. He was my first for everything. This was even a big blow to his family. If you knew Justin you thought he would always be there for his kids if not his girlfriend. I feel embarassed when someone asks me how we're doing or where he's at. He called me yesterday to ask about our son the convo was dry and forced. he began telling how he found a job and that he even started going to church. It looks like to me he's not coming back and that hurts more than anything. when he talks i can truly hear happiness in his voice. I want to be happy for him but I am not happy with how he left me. I feel burdened and stressed. I am begining to blame him for my anger, sadness, and depression. i feel like his happiness costed me what little happiness i had. at times I hate his guts at other times i miss him and I still love him. I cry all the time I need help. does anyone have any advice.
thanks Teena marie Columbus Ohio I am so sorry to hear that.How old was he?I think you should try to forget about him has much has you can,i know its hard but it is the best thing for you and ur kids.You will feel so much better and want to do more things if you forget about him.You will also someday find a really nice guy that with treat you right and love you and your kids very much.But you will probaly have to wait awhile for him to come in ot your life.The best things in life come to thoses who wait.But for now you just need to forget about him has much as you can.and remember what he did to you was bad but it will only make you stronger.I hope i helped you.if you want to talk or want more advice or just need anthing eamil me.My email is sherrisgirl15@yahoo.com . |
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June 6, 2008, 9:27 am PDT
Quote From: teemarie03 pregnant and alone Where do I start? Right now my life is pretty messed up right now. I am 7 months pregnant and my boyfriend of 2 years has ran off to Virginia. I already have a one year old son with him and things werent great but they werent the worst. about 2 weeks ago he was helping his god parents move to Virginia, then on my sons first birthday july 09 he calls me and says he wasn't going to make it to the party. He had the nerve enough to tell me that he could've gotten a bus ticket home but he needed time to himself he was too stressed out. Boy was I hurt to the bone. I figured its your sons 1st birthday and your being so selfish by saying that you needed to get away. At a time like this? His reply was "me missing his first birthday is between me and him and I don't have to answer to anyone but him." Well that may be true to a certain extent but come on it's your sons first birthday why would you want to miss out on that? I was furious. I told him not to bother me for awhile. He calls the party to speak with his brother and tells him he on his way to Virginia Beach. Does anyone else see something wrong with that. he tells him also that he would be back later on that week. After that I didnt hear from him until the following Saturday and he calls me and tells me that he might be staying down there for awhile and that he's going to the shipyard to find work every morning. I was so hurt. I was crying hysterically I mean I loved this boy. I would do anything for him. I mean it just happened so fast. The day before he left we were doing fine we watched a movie after I got off work then he took me home we did our I love yous and kisses. He says he understands why I am so hurt but I dont see how you could do somebody like this if you love them. His main rebuttals i are I need time to myself to get my head on straight. you dont know what is going oon in someones head or what people are thinking, I am too stressed out. Sometimes you have think about yourself no matter who it hurts or you'll never be happy. I know it's not all about me but I am crushed I need my boyfriend right now to get through this pregnancy to hug me kiss me talk to me but he says he to stressed out and he needs to get his life togather and start thinking more about himself. I feel like I am worthless. I cry every night . I cant believe he just left me like he did. He was my first for everything. This was even a big blow to his family. If you knew Justin you thought he would always be there for his kids if not his girlfriend. I feel embarassed when someone asks me how we're doing or where he's at. He called me yesterday to ask about our son the convo was dry and forced. he began telling how he found a job and that he even started going to church. It looks like to me he's not coming back and that hurts more than anything. when he talks i can truly hear happiness in his voice. I want to be happy for him but I am not happy with how he left me. I feel burdened and stressed. I am begining to blame him for my anger, sadness, and depression. i feel like his happiness costed me what little happiness i had. at times I hate his guts at other times i miss him and I still love him. I cry all the time I need help. does anyone have any advice.
thanks Teena marie Columbus Ohio I agree with the other poster who responded to you- it sounds like your boyfriend, or ex boyfriend, has made a new life for himself. You are stuck having to pick up the pieces and make a life for yourself and for your children. That anger, depression and feelings of worthlessness that you talk about has to stop. You have to make the decision to make peace with your ex boyfriend’s decision and move forward, if not for you, then for your precious children. As a parent, I know that you want your kids to have better then you’ve had in life. That is all up to you now, solely on your shoulders. Don’t let them down, you can’t afford to. I know it is a lot of stress and pressure on you, but you don’t have a choice. You don’t have the luxury of waiting for him to come home; and even if he did, would you ever truly trust him again? You deserve so much more then he can ever give you. Your children deserve to grow up to be happy, healthy, well-adjusted people; for that to happen, you have to give them a happy, healthy, well-adjusted mother. Reach out for professional help if you have to, do whatever you need to do to gain some peace in your life. You deserve it! I wish you the very best. Take care of YOU; don’t focus on your ex boyfriend, where he is or what he is doing. Focus on you. |
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