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I think it's hard to forgive someone for doing something as hurtful as that...But, I think it also depends on how your relationship was at the time?  (not to excuse it) and the reasons why she did that?  Were you living with her?  She was with someone in your house???  Sounds even more hurtful...I think it's going to depend on if YOU think you could/want to forgive.  If she's really sorry, and that she's going to have to gain  your trust again...also, you two need counseling...IF you love her, and truly believe she loves you, then it may be worth a try...otherwise, you'll never know.  But, it won't be easy...she's going to have to really prove she's sorry and loves you...and you're going to have to try, and let your do that...she should accept you will have times, your anger will come out...but, if she loves you, she will do what it takes...and, if you see that, then perhaps you too will be able to slowly forgive...it takes time to forgive...so, don't be hard on yourself...let the anger out, if you  need to...just do it, so as to show her how much she hurt you...then, talk about it...hope the helps...

I'm sorry but that's one thing that I wasn't be able to do is forgive, she has totally no respect for you. That's something she should have talked to you about, before acting. It would have been better for her to leave you, than play like that behing your back,....and you know what, I've been there and it's hard, because he did come back and ask forgiveness  and as hard as it was I said no even though I still loved him,.... now I'm looking back and I'm every happy with my life, I have an awesome boyfriend and we have a baby girl. I can tell you one thing it was hard to trust again, but I know that he loves and respects me,   Hold on you'll get through it,   GOOD LUCK  

   

ps,... were you giving her enough sex,.... because alot of girls need it alot. just a thought....